Ep #179: The Problem with External Validation

The Design You Podcast with Tobi Fairley | The Problem with External Validation

What would you say if I told you that there is something standing between you and your goals, and you probably don’t even know it? Something that sounds positive but is actually preventing you from building wealth. What is it? External validation.

External validation is like a drug we don’t know we’re taking. It feels amazing in the moment when we receive praise and instant gratification, but we often don’t realize the damage it’s doing to us and our businesses. When you have conditioned yourself to seek external validation and use it as a measure of your worth and success, you will spend so much of your life unfulfilled.

In this episode, I’m sharing why external validation isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be and why it might be the thing keeping you from the life and business you dream of. I’m showing you how to stop delegating your happiness to external sources and showing you what to do instead to live by your real values, create success and achieve your goals.

If you want help creating a business with thriving revenue streams so that you can design the life you really want, get on the waitlist for the next round of my Design You Coaching Program. Inside, you’ll get access to a whole new course where I share my complete design system with you. You’ll receive every template, tool, SOP, worksheet, downloadable, video, and more that I have created and used myself, and receive a complete step-by-step for how to run your full-service projects. 

What You'll Learn From This Episode

  • The problem with seeking validation from sources outside of yourself.
  • How external validation keeps you from building wealth.
  • What non-cash currency is and why it’s such a problem.
  • The problem with people-pleasing.
  • How to practice internal validation and let your values guide you.
  • What happens when we don’t receive external validation.

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I help creative women (and a few really progressive dudes) design profit-generating, soul-fulfilling businesses that let them own their schedule, upgrade their life and feel more alive than ever!

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