Want to hear possibly my biggest epiphany of 2013? It happened just a couple of weeks ago in my bi-monthly health session with Julianne, my holistic health and nutrition coach. She has a way of pulling out big, shiny ideas from me during our time together and it never ceases to amaze me. This one happened at the perfect moment (as these things tend to do), just in time for 2014. This a-ha is all about going for the gold, and ironically the Winter Olympics are this February, so they will inspire and remind me to make a new “Olympic-sized” habit a priority. Let me tell you what I mean.
So Julianne and I were talking about my life and in particular my busy schedule. And we were discussing what I wanted for myself in 2014 and how I would make it all happen. I confessed my desire to shine BRIGHTER than ever before this year, which was followed by a dose of overwhelm, frustration, and some whining because “how can I do it all?” And wise Julianne’s response?…”Ok, what are you going to let go?”
My next words went something like this…”WHAT? Let go? What do you mean let go? I’m not letting go of anything, thank you very much! These are my dreams and oh that stuff I have to do that isn’t a part of my dreams, well I HAVE to do those. I don’t have a choice. I can get rid of them. They may be the dirty work but they all have to happen to help me accomplish my goals! So the answer is NOTHING! Nothing can go. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Zero. Nothing, Capish?”
So after closing my eyes, catching my breath, and calming down (while she waited patiently with a smile like she always does), I came around to the epiphany. Are you ready? Here it is…
We were asking the WRONG question. In fact, I had been asking the wrong question for years. The question is not what has to go? The question is “What has to be added in?” Seriously??—I am already “too busy” and the question is what needs to be added in. Well, yes. The answer is yes and the question is “What needs to be added in?”
And here is what I mean. The real question if I am going to do ALL these things and I am going to give up nothing, is what would it take to get me in a condition to make it all happen? What can I change to be the change I want to be? What would it take for me to have the strength, health, stamina, and presence of mind to make it all happen? It’s like training for a marathon. Or the Olympics. It’s the “Tobi Olympics”!!
What do the top Athletes do to condition themselves to be at the TOP of their game when they are dreaming of the gold? They train! They add in practices, self-care, training and rest. They add in to get more out. And if accomplishing all these goals and dreams that are on my list are the equivalent to winning the Gold Medal in my life, then what would it take to keep me in tip-top shape and give me the stamina to make it all happen?
It may sound counterintuitive, but it’s all about adding more in, to get more out. So what has to be added in? It’s not a mystery to me. It’s all the things I already know make me my best. It is yoga and meditation, healthy eating and exercise, vitamins and supplements. It’s rest and creativity. It’s time with friends and family to fill my cup back up when it’s depleted.
And the most important part of the equation is these things are NOT optional. There is no “I don’t have time to exercise” or “I don’t feel like meditating today” or “we’re too busy to spend time with friends”. These are non-negotiable. I have to keep my eye on that shiny gold prize and do what I must even when I don’t feel like it. These things are part of the JOB. They are part of the equation that equals the gold medal. And if you think these are the things that are to be done if there is any time left in the day when everything else is done, then you won’t be standing on the winning platform at the end of the competition. You must make these choices all the time. You can’t wait until you have time for them. You must make time for them. Remember one of my most popular posts from last year 99% is a bitch, 100% is a breeze. Well to win your very own personal Olympics, it takes a 100% approach. No exceptions. Do you think Michael Phelps made training optional to win all those golds? Of course not. And neither should you.
So what do you think? What will you add in to your already busy life to actually get more out? Can changing your attitude about YOUR Olympic equation help you do more in your 24 hours than you have ever done before and instead of being tired actually be happier AND healthier? Are you willing, REALLY willing, to take this approach to reach your goals (and your GOLD) and live your dreams in 2014?
Leave me a comment and tell me what you think? Can you make this more is more philosophy work for you?
I know I am. See you in the Gold Medal club soon!
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