Ep #201: How to Be More Yourself

The Design You Podcast with Tobi Fairley | How to Be More Yourself

I receive a lot of feedback from those of you who listen to me, follow me on social media, or work with me in my programs, and the majority of it is positive and supportive. But I learned a long time ago that if you only take the good feedback, you’re going to show up in ways that are less authentic than the real you. Hearing the negative feedback is also valuable.

I am very comfortable receiving all the feedback because it helps me continue to be my whole self. I can hear you, understand where you are coming from, and know that I don’t have to do anything in response other than continue to be myself. You get to decide if you align with me. I have decided to be free from other people’s thought models, and in this episode, I’m showing you why you have the power to do the same.

In this episode, discover how to stop letting other people’s comments and opinions affect how you show up and how to use other people’s comments to make sure you are still being yourself. Hear the thing that has helped me show up so much more authentically and the main tool I use to stay in this place of clarity about who I really am.

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What You'll Learn From This Episode

  • Why being willing to show up as your true self will allow others to align with you.
  • The concept of the think-feel-do cycle and how understanding this can free you from listening to other people’s opinions.
  • Why you are the only person responsible for how you think, feel, and act.
  • How the patriarchy has led people to try and control and belittle others.
  • What respectability politics is and how to recognize it in your life.
  • How I have become more myself in all parts of my life.
  • Why we believe that other people’s behaviors allow us to be or prevent us from being happy, and why this isn’t the case.

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I help creative women (and a few really progressive dudes) design profit-generating, soul-fulfilling businesses that let them own their schedule, upgrade their life and feel more alive than ever!

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