Thanks to Dr. Wayne Dyer and his fantastic book Excuses be Gone, I have a new philosophy for my life. Though I have never met him, Dr. Dyer has been one of the greatest teachers in life. My parents made me (thank goodness) start listening to his audio tapes when I was 12 years old. At the time I thought it was boring and ridiculous, a punishment really. But I soon learned it was life-changing, even at a young age, and today I credit my parents’ wisdom and Dr. Dyer’s for helping make me be the successful person that I am.
So though I have read and listened to Excuses Be Gone before (actually it was the book that started me on my new healthy lifestyle almost 3 years ago and helped me give up emotional eating and lose the weight that was keeping me from being my best), I recently re-read it for my Tobi’s Book Club, and heard so many new things and walked away with many new ah-ha’s. I find this happens to me often when re-reading a favorite book because I am at a different place now than the last time I read it, so different things resonate with me each time.
This time the MAJOR, SUPER-DUPER, GIGANTIC ah-ha moment from Excuses Be Gone was this: Am I willing to do WHATEVER it takes to live the life I say I want? No excuses. No lip service, but within the confines of morality and ethical behavior, am I willing to do anything and everything to live my dreams? And do you know what I decided? I decided my answer was a resounding YES!
So what does this mean? Well as Dr. Dyer says, it means am I willing to do anything and everything it takes (while still being responsible to my child and my family obligations) to make my goals and dreams come true?
For you this could mean things like: Quitting your uninspiring job. Moving to a new town. Working harder than you have ever worked before. Getting in shape finally if it gives you the stamina to succeed. Investing in special training. Working 2 jobs until your dream job is off and running and making money. Going back to school. Taking out a loan to design a life you love. Selling a prized possession. Stop wasting time gossiping. Stop procrastinating! Being consistent (even if it seems boring) if it gets you closer to your goals. No excuses! Period!
Are you REALLY willing to Just Do It? Are you willing to put aside ALL excuses no matter what? There will no longer be an option to say, “But I didn’t have time,” or “I don’t have the money,” or “I didn’t know how,” or “No one would help me,” or any other multitude of explanations and excuses for why you didn’t follow through and make it happen. No blaming others. No blaming the weather. No more “but’s.” No excuses. No exceptions.
Wow! What could we accomplish if we had no excuses? The answer is…Everything! There is nothing we can’t accomplish when we eliminate excuses. There are no roadblocks. There’s nothing to keep us from our dreams.
And are you willing to stay the course no matter what challenges you encounter? Or how difficult it gets? Can you stick with it, your commitment to your goals, no matter what other people think or say? Or will you fizzle out when the going gets tough or you encounter some resistance? Because creating a life of your dreams can be tough.
Well, I have decided that I can. I know now what that looks like. And it is a real attitude adjustment for me. It goes hand-in-hand with the idea of the Tobi Olympics. It involves adding in more. It involves having an attitude of believing that I have the stamina and energy to live life at a totally different level than ever before. It involves me being on a mission to squeeze the life out of every day and every moment like I haven’t before.
It requires me to stop telling myself I am too tired or too busy and instead start and end each day with a zest for how much I can experience and how much pleasure and fulfillment I can get out of each moment and each day. It requires me making no excuses for self-care and sleep because without the two of these I will never be able to operate at this new energy level. It requires me unplugging from social media when it’s time for bed. And getting up before dawn like I did earlier last year, to get in two hours extra in my day before most people get out of bed.
In shifting my thoughts in this way, I realized that many of the people I admire most must have this mentality. The Tony Robbins and Sir Richard Bransons of the world obviously live a life with no room for wasting moments, no complaining or being tired or gossiping. They squeeze as much gusto out of every day as is humanly possible. They don’t wait to travel or start new hobbies, or new business ventures. The just do it and they do it now. It’s the idea of “time’s a wasting” or “Now’s as good a good a time as any.”
So I am willing and I am on a mission to live this kind of life. Instead of asking myself, “If today was my last day would I really want to be working my buns off and exhausted,” which is a negative way of looking at life, I am now thinking, “Whether today is my last day or not, I am going to squeeze as much as I possibly can out of it. I am going to do many things that I enjoy today and I will find pleasure and fulfillment in ALL the things I do!” So if today were my last, it certainly would have been a GREAT day!
Woohoo! This is quite possibly the most liberating mental shift I have ever made. It doesn’t feel overwhelming or exhausting that I will be doing more, I feel energized and passionate that I am making the most of out my life instead of wasting it or putting it off. I feel empowered to fit in time for myself, my job, and my family every day without having to ever say “I’m too tired” or “I don’t have time” again. And I don’t have to explain it to anyone, or justify anything. Because it’s my life. And I do have a choice. I am planning time to do things on my bucket list now. No procrastinating. It’s instant gratification at it’s best.
How about you? Does this idea of living life to it’s fullest, on a level you have never committed to before resonate or even light a fire in you? Are you going to join me in living 2014 like the high-powered, no excuses, successful role models of the world?
Leave me a comment and tell me what you think? I am redefining what a successful life looks like to me and it involves self-care, adventure, and daily responsibilities all rolled into one. Will you redefine success in your life? I believe not waiting to follow your dreams with a no-excuses mentality may just be the epitome in self-care for you.
Happy Self-Care Saturday, Friends!
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