Dream a Little Dream in 2012

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Well, it’s day 3 of my tour through my 2012 resolutions, plans and dreams. If you’ve been with me this week, you have read my resolutions for the new year. You know what I’m planning to accomplish, and today we are going to take it outside the box, or the “jar” so to speak and talk about my dreams.

It’s a scary thing, even for me, to put my dreams out in the universe. What if people laugh at me, or think I’m stupid, or silly? What if I jinx myself by telling you all what extraordinary wishes are in my head and my heart? Ok…well, so what?!

What do I really have to lose? If I don’t put them out there, they may never happen. If I am not willing to take that lid off the jar that holds my deepest desires, how in the world will the people that can help me achieve them ever even know about them?

What do I have to lose by being vulnerable and authentic and open? Our fears so often hold us back from really going after the things that we dream about, that we visualize, that we yearn for.  Many people would rather be pleasantly surprised if something accidentally happens to them in life, as opposed to taking a chance on being disappointed if they dream of something, go after it, and fail.

I, on the other hand, prefer to leave nothing to chance. I would never want to come to the end of my life and wish I had dreamed bigger and tried harder to make those dreams come true.  I prefer to dream big, plan big, take big risks, work really hard, and celebrate awesome results!  


And who cares if people think you are silly or stupid or worse? Apparently Coco Chanel didn’t let what other people thought of her hold her back. So why would we? I say “if Coco can do it, I can too!”

Will I have failures? Sure! Will many of the things I dream, not come to pass? Of Course! But the more I dream and the bigger I dream the more of those dreams I will realize. But you gotta dream big.  I mean REALLY B-I-G!  If you dream about being a billionaire and you only make $100 Million, I don’t think you are going to be too disappointed, do you?

So here they are in no particular order, 20 of my Big, Giant, Hairy, Scary, Dreams…with one extra thrown in for fun.

1. Write a Book…well actually, several.

2. Have an Apartment in New York City

3. Learn to Play the Piano

4. Travel Internationally every year and take my daughter with me

5. Be published in the other “biggies” that I haven’t made it into yet…Architectural Digest, Elle Decor, Veranda.

6. Have my own furniture line

7. Have a Summer Home–the Hamptons, a Farm with chickens, or the Beach…I can’t decide.  Maybe I’d like all three!

8.  Have my own TV Show

9. Visit Maison & Objet in Paris

10. Have a Garden…a fabulous one both flower and vegetable.

11. Build a New House in Arkansas

12. Do the Kipps Bay Showhouse

13. Rent a Villa in Italy for a Month, followed by a Month in a Paris Apartment for the Summer with my mama, hubby, and baby girl in tow.

14. Have my own Radio Show

15. Have a house keeper 5 days a week

16. Make enough money to make significant charity donations every year of $25,000 or more (hopefully much more) to help less fortunate people have a more beautiful life.

17. Learn to Speed read so I can get through all the business books on my list

18. Spend 2 weeks in Maui every Winter and a week at Blackberry Farms every Fall.

19. Have my own column in a National Magazine or Newspaper

20. Take Culinary courses to learn to be a great Chef

21. Buy a Birkin Bag in a FABULOUS color!

So there they are. Now that wasn’t so bad, was it? I am ready to see what the Universe does with all this material. I’d be happy with even one of these “Biggies” this year and the good news is…I’m feeling lucky! Come on 2012, mama needs a new pair of shoes (or a house in the Hamptons, or an orange Birkin Bag).

So what are your big dreams this year? Come on, tell us! Put them out here in the Universe and see what happens. What have you got to lose?

Try out this neat course over at Mondo Beyondo starting next Monday if you need some help discovering them. I’ve done their Dream Lab before and believe me, it’s super inspirational.

Happy Dreaming!  xo, Tobi

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17 Responses to Dream a Little Dream in 2012

  1. Ivy de Leon says:

    Thanks for sharing your dreams and encouraging, and inspiring me along the way. Love the SouthHampton House this past summer. Looking foward to enjoying more of your design.

  2. Monica Smith says:

    My big dreams for 2012 are: to write 2 books that are received/approved by big-name publisher(s); begin studying for my Doctorate in Ministry degree; have my own life and style business finally up and running successfully so that I am booked with clients, speaking engagements and events into 2013; teaching Bible studies to women and young girls about image, godly beauty and their true value and worth; travel to Hawaii for a two week vacation; buy my dream cottage/bungalow overlooking the Chesapeak Bay and Atlantic Ocean; and earning a six-figure income so that I can get out of debt!

  3. Tonya says:

    Tobi thank you for sharing. I am scared to death of my dreams, because I allow what others might think of me or convincing someone I am worth them hiring to influence being brave and stepping out.

    In the back of my mind I think they will say, “She doesn’t have a college education”, “she is to old (I’m only 39)”, “based on her sad blog she I can’t create” and you know how the list can go on and on.

    The 3rd to last picture hit me so hard I teared up while even reading it. Thank you, thank you. There is someone out that there that will give me the opportunity to reach my dreams (as I desire to be a support vs. my own business) and hire me based on the quality of my work, my observant nature and the strong worth ethic that my parents instilled in me.

  4. I hope all of your dreams come true, Tobi.
    Absolutely, dream big.
    Happy 2012.


  5. Aimee says:

    Thanks for sharing, this is really inspirational. I just started a blog 2 days ago, and I’d love to spend my time doing something I love, plus being there for my sons every time they need me. I have a good, stable job, a newly minted masters degree in my field, and I’m terrified of pursuing my creative vision…but now I’m obsessed with getting there. I wish you the very best of luck in all your goals, especially the housekeeper. 😉

  6. paige says:

    Whip it Tobi! Love them all; especially Kipps Bay cause one of my goals is to stay @ The Carlyle during Kipps Bay & see your room! We will rock Manhattan!!! Can not wait.

  7. Victoria says:

    Tobi, you are really sparking the dwindling fire in me and I am sure many more of us, your faithful readers. My third grade teacher was my favorite of all growing up in Arkansas. I remember almost every detail about her, but most of all I remember that she allowed us to dream and imagine. That apparently wasn’t a difficult task for this little dreamer. So much so that my fourth grade teacher wrote it her comments on one of my report cards. That makes it official, right? Even though she meant it as a negative. But somewhere along the way of growing up and older, some of those dreams went by the wayside even though there are times I feel I am going to burst open with yearning for those dreams even when I thought I had pushed them way down inside. So thank you again this week for lighting a fire. If you ever decide to take on another career as a motivational guru, I know you would do well and prosper in that field as well as you are in interior design.

    Many blessings to you and yours and cannot wait to see what amazing dreams come true for you this year!

    ~ Victoria in Texas (but yearning to build a house in my home state of Arkansas too! And Go Hawgs!!! Great game last nigh!)

  8. Jennifer says:

    Congrats on putting them out there Tobi…I have no doubt that the universe will show you the way and you will accomplish all of your big dreams!
    Who cares what others think…I think you’re fabulous! Go for it all!!
    Thank you for being so open and honest:)
    Happy 2012!!

  9. Big dreams..love it. I have a great book that is all quotes by Chanel, The Gospel According to Coco Chanel: Life Lessons from the World’s Most Elegant Woman ” One of my favorites is “In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.” -Chanel.

  10. Jay Reardon says:

    Dear Tobi,
    I believeDreams do come true. You have a great list. I will be sending good thoughts that more than one comes true in 2012!
    I dream I will spend more time with our four Grandsons and our Grandaughter who will arrive in April!

  11. marni says:

    i may sign up for the dream course! what you have written is so inspirational and honest and the reason i blog is to share the dreamy things i love, seems to be a perfect step forward into the new year. here’s to all your wishes coming true. i would love to attend one of your workshops one day. denese had such amazing things to say about her visit!!!

  12. Linda says:

    I have no doubt Tobi that everyone of your fabulous dreams will come true. You Rock!

  13. I can see you achieving them all…Happy New Year!

  14. Maria Killam says:

    Love your list, thanks for the ideas and inspiration, I added some for my post which I have finally written for this year! You are a mover and shaker!

  15. Stacy Naquin says:

    I think I like “housekeeper 5 days a week” the best! I would add “chef” to my big goal list 😉

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  17. Mary Gibbs says:

    Hey, just discovered your designs, guess where? One kings lane, so I googled your name to see who you are. I’ve recently discovered blogs in design. I’m not a designer, but I always wanted to be. I’m a mother of four, grandmother of one, have my Ed.S. In Education, but still secretly dream of design. I’ve gotten quite addicted to design blogs. I see their projects, ideas, cooking, and say that I’ve done that before, or even better, why don’t I start a blog? Thanks for your inspiring resolutions/goals, they’re not silly, you know what the Bible says, “Without a vision, the people will perish”. So, keep “visioning”, I don’t want you to perish, I’ve just discovered you!
    May God bless all of your visions, they usually come from Him anyway!