Self-care Saturday: Life is Hard, Suck it up.

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Life is hard. We all know that. And I certainly realize how easy I really have it in the grand scheme of things. I have an amazing support system both personally and at work. I have a healthy and happy child. I have a great husband. I am closely connected to my family. I have amazing friends. And I work in my passion each and every day.

But no matter who you are, how much money you have, or how many blessings you can count in your life at this very moment, life is still hard—for everyone. It is hard to find our way. It is hard to stay on course. It is hard to get healthy. It is hard to stay healthy. Relationships are hard. Work is hard. Finding your passion is hard. Saying no to things that don’t align with your purpose is hard. It is hard to grow and reach your potential. It is hard to grow up. It is hard to grow old. It is hard to lose people you love. It is hard to change. It’s hard to step outside your comfort zone to be all you want to be while you still have time.


But at the same time, life is wonderful. Life is full of opportunity. Life is beautiful. Life is a gift. Life is what we make of it. Life is short and now is the time to live our dreams. Life is Love.

It has been a while since I have written one of my “life” posts. You know the ones where I talk about my life’s journey and what challenges I am facing, what is inspiring me, or what life lessons I have learned of late.


I have been going through a lot of change in my life, mostly inspiring and a little bit challenging. A lot of fabulous mixed with a dash of scary. Much of it fulfilling with a pinch of frustrating. But something has been holding me back from writing about it all, even on my favorite day of the week,“Self-care Saturday”. And maybe that’s because I have fallen off the proverbial wagon—the self-care wagon–just a bit. Life has been getting in the way of taking care of me. And when life gets too hectic, I get writer’s block. Or a mental block. Or both! I have wanted to push through it all and put my thoughts on paper  on the blog, but have felt paralyzed–or just mute, really.


Interestingly, I just read this post from my friend Kelley, and she seems to be in a similar place in her life. Her current challenges sound akin to my journey over the last two years. And when you are making big changes it feels nice to connect with others because of shared experiences. Doesn’t it make you feel comforted to know that you aren’t the only one feeling this way–that you are normal? Or if you aren’t, there are other “not-normal” people out there like you. This isn’t the first time that Kelley’s and my life have aligned. And I don’t think that is a coincidence. In fact, I don’t believe in coincidences. I would call it Divine Intervention and the Universe at work.


So it’s no coincidence that Kelley’s post has inspired me to push my thoughts out onto the blog, even if it is hard, because she is doing the same. And she also reminded me that my journey is meant to serve many of you, so keeping it to myself may not only hold me back but may hold you back too.


Earlier today I was listening to Oprah on the radio in my car and she asked this question…”What gifts are you meant to bring to the world”. Do you know your answer? I know part of what I am supposed to do is use my life’s work and life’s challenges to teach others. It is my purpose. It is my duty. It is my job. And one of the best ways I can do that is to write about it all here on the blog.


Not long ago, Mastin Kipp, author of The Daily Love, said he gets writers block too. But he just has to “suck it up and write” because it’s his job. So even though it feels a bit more difficult to write at the moment with all life’s distractions, and even when I am tired, and even when I don’t want to, I will do it anyway. Because it is my job.

Thanks for following along as I once again share my life’s journey with you—the good, the bad and the beautiful. I have so much to tell you…a bit of business, a bit of life and a lot of design. Let’s do this together.

Now I’m off to rest up on what’s left of this Self-care Saturday because I have a lot of writing to do…starting tomorrow. 😉


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p.s.  And speaking of tomorrow, be sure to tune into OWN for Oprah’s Life Class Sunday night for part 1 with Bishop T.D. Jakes. I was in the audience last week in Dallas for the filming and I can’t wait to see it again. The Bishop is phenomenal!

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8 Responses to Self-care Saturday: Life is Hard, Suck it up.

  1. Karena says:

    Dear Tobi,
    I am so glad that you chose to share this with me.
    It is a confirmation that even the most beautiful, successful, pulled together woman can go through these times. I have, and it isn’t a pretty state to be in. I try to keep bringing joy to others through my blog.Even when I feel I cannot write another word.

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  2. kelley moore says:

    Tobi, you made me smile today – and that’s not an easy feat as my dog is in the hospital. Thank you for sharing my blog with others, and more importantly always being supportive of me. You inspire me in so many ways, and you are right our paths continue to cross for a reason. I adore you, admire you, and hope that our paths continue to cross for a long time. This journey we are on has aligned so often, and I agree sharing it with the world is scary but I feel it is worth the risk to help other people and to inspire one another. Thanks again! XO

  3. Karen T. says:

    Wish I could have been in that audience, too. Yes, The Bishop really is phenomenal!

  4. Franki says:

    Sometimes…I just have an ice cream cone. franki

  5. julie couch says:

    Tobi, Before I met you, I heard you interviewed on The Skirted Roundtable. Immediately I knew I wanted to take in all you had to say and follow you and your career. I’m inspired by you, your work ethic, and your confidence.
    For me, the past year has been the hardest of my life with heartbreaking loss and grief, but I feel like I’m starting to see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel…finally. Of course, running a business, raising a baby, keeping friendships nurtured, and my marriage (mostly) healthy is tough;) But like you, I know in the grand scheme of things I am profoundly lucky.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. It truly makes me feel encouraged and hopeful of what’s to come. My motto has always pretty much been “Suck it up” and move on, so I loved seeing it framed in gold! xo, jc

  6. Jennifer says:

    Ever since meeting you through the Best Practices Network, I have admired you as a business woman and person. As I grow and develop my interior design business, your blog inspires me personally and professionally to follow my passion, and know what I am feeling and experiences is normal. Thank you for your candor and honesty, it really helps!
    All the best,

  7. Tobi says:

    Thank you all for your lovely and kind comments and compliments. Each and every time I am open and honest and vulnerable here on the blog, the blessings flow back to me instantly through comments and private emails reminding me that this is my life’s work to share and to teach and to learn from each of you. And for that I am truly grateful. And to you Kelley, I feel absolutely the same way about you. Thanks for giving me the courage to return to my writing and to continue to be my authentic self. xo, Tobi

  8. DJ says:

    When I feel like I’m being suffocated by life and it’s challenges and can’t possibly write or type one complete sentence…that is exactly the moment I NEED to be writing/typing! It is our job, our life and what we do! You do it well, my friend! Sometimes just telling myself to “suck it up” does the trick when all of the other “softer” message won’t cut it!