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Shopping Guide: Thanksgiving in my New Home

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As you all know, I love to host my family and friends for dinner parties, and Thanksgiving is no exception! I’m so excited that I am finally able to share my newly renovated home with all of you, especially my dining room and breakfast room with Thanksgiving being next week! I love my yellow and pink floral wallpaper and pink velvet chairs, and I can mix in my different china collections. If my new dining room has you inspired to take your Thanksgiving in a bolder and more colorful direction, here are a few pieces that I think will give you the same look!

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  1. Lizzie Table Runner in Mineral: You could say that I’ve been dreaming up this color scheme since I started designing my fabric line! My Lizzie fabric in mineral features the same bold yellow and pinks as my dining room wallpaper.
  2. Geo Placecard Holders: I love adding personal touches to each setting, like a hand written placecard in one of these beautiful geometric holders. They come in an assortment so there is some added interest to your table!
  3. Gold Bamboo Serving Spoon: I love the bamboo motif on the handle of this beautiful 24K gold-plated serving spoon for all of our side dishes in timeless style!
  4. “Bamboo” Serving Bowl: Taking another cue from the bamboo motif and the natural floral elements in my dining room, this white ceramic serving bowl will be a beautiful addition to the table to hold different side dishes!
  5. ‘La Cite’ Pitcher: Let’s bring back cocktail hour with a glamorous glass pitcher with a 24K gold design! Or fill it with water or iced-tea to relieve you from having to fill everyone’s glass and enjoy your meal!
  6. Cape Recycled Glassware: These lovely glasses are handcrafted in Africa from 100% recycled glass with the slightest tint of green to go with the floral designs! Being eco-friendly and chic make this glassware set a must!
  7. Bamboo Salt & Pepper Shakers: Beauty is in the details and these salt and pepper shakers with a bamboo motif are certainly no exception!
  8. Gold Rimmed Bubble Glassware Collection: These bubbly Old Fashioned glasses are the right mix of whimsy and classy with a gold rim!
  9. Tobi Fairley Tommye Napkins in Buttercup: If you can’t tell, I’ve been dreaming about this dining room color scheme long before it became a reality! My Tommye leopard print in bright Buttercup yellow pair perfectly with the fun floral table runner!
  10. Jadeite Pedestal Server: I love collecting vintage tableware, especially jadeite. I can’t wait to serve some of the amazing desserts my daughter and I will bake on these gorgeous pedestal servers!
  11. Gilt-Edge Shell Napkin Rings: Napkin rings are really like the jewelry for your dining table, so why shouldn’t they be fabulous? Adorned with rose quartz and brass these feminine rings will pop against the bright yellow napkins!
  12. Pink Brushstroke Dinnerware: This dinnerware set is pretty in pink and ready for dinner! Both dishwasher and microwave safe and large enough to hold the generous portions of Thanksgiving, your hubby won’t even notice the slightly feminine tone!
  13. Torta Gold-Plated Cake Server: This stunning crystal handle and 24K gold-plated stainless steel cake server may have my guests reaching for dessert first!
  14. kate spade new york Malmo Gold 5 Piece Place Setting: The essentials are key to a good tablescape, starting with your flatware! This set in a fashionable gold finish will add a dose of chic style to your place settings!

Shopping Guide: Glamorous Thanksgiving

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I’ve been dreaming about a glamorous Thanksgiving with a tablescape dressed in moody hues! Sleek and sexy dark metallics paired with black, with plenty of votives and white calla lilies make for a perfect evening in my book! I’d love to serve an elegant meal surrounded by family and friends at this dazzling table. Let’s take a look and what this fashion-forward Thanksgiving could look like!

xo,

 

 

 

 

 

 

  1. Ita Cheese Plate & Forma Spreader: I’ll start this dinner off with wine and cheese served on this elegant polished agate plate. Both natural and chic, this server will add some sparkle to my table.
  2. Waterford Corra Tablecloth: Setting your table starts with a good base, so a fabulous tablecloth is essential. This dramatic wine colored linen/cotton tablecloth will set the mood.
  3. Vera Wang Wedgwood Polished Noir 5-Piece Place Setting: Stainless steel place settings in a polished black finish are the fashion-forward element your table is looking for!
  4. Crystal Votive Holders, Set of 3: Line the center of your table with these sleek cube crystal votive holders for a warm sense of high-end style!
  5. Juliska Emerson Side Plate: Beautiful white ceramic stoneware side plates, with a fabulous pewter-glazed trim, are just edgy enough for this tablescape! And, they are dishwasher, oven, microwave, and freezer safe – does it get any easier?
  6. Apilco Reglisse Dinner Plates, Set of 4: I love how dramatic each setting looks with a matte black (and scratch resistant!) dinner plate! These plates are on the larger side to hold up to those generously sized Thanksgiving servings!
  7. Silver Heritage Bottle Opener: Everyone will want to serve drinks with this alluring crystal handled bottle opener with a pure silver edge detail!
  8. ‘Pewter’ Stoneware Soup Bowl: This warm pewter-glazed stoneware will hold everything from soups and salads to pastas and even dessert! And when you’re guests have gone home, just pop them in the dishwasher to make clean up a breeze!
  9. Classic Serving Set: The shiny mirror finish on these teardrop-shaped servers gives them a classic look that you will enjoy for years to come! These will fit seamlessly into your décor any time of year.
  10. Mode Living Positano Linen Napkins, Set of 4: I want to add a little feminine touch against these sleek, modern elements. A lovely floral linen napkin ties together the color scheme!
  11. Amulet Napkin Ring: These napkin rings are to die for! These brass napkin rings in a silver finish will add plenty of sparkle to each setting with its faceted face!
  12. Tri-Corner Bowl: Beautiful curves meet with 3 gentle points on this serving bowl to elegantly serve all of your special sides to your loved ones!
  13. Carine Red Wine Goblet: These gorgeous red wine goblets feature an organic-inspired textural finish that will add plenty of interest!
  14. Waterford Crystal London Smoke Decanter: Cocktail hour and after dinner drinks will be a fabulous way to end a perfect evening with this decadent crystal decanter.

Shopping Guide: Farmhouse Chic Thanksgiving

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It’s fall y’all, and time to start thinking about setting your Thanksgiving table. I’ve been thinking a lot about a farmhouse chic tablescape in beautiful shades of white, orange, and light blue with pops of copper! This tablescape puts a polished spin on the rustic Thanksgiving décor from the 90’s! Add in a few blue hydrangeas for a centerpiece and you are ready to set your table!

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  1. ‘Berry and Thread’ Dinner Plate: A beautiful shade of light blue glazed ceramic plates with a thread and berry embellishment gives these plates a charming country feeling! Better yet, they are freezer, microwave, and dishwasher safe to make your Thanksgiving clean up a breeze!
  2. ‘Berry and Thread’ Salad Plate: That same lovely embellishment, this time in a white salad plate, will add another layer of color to your tablescape!
  3. Parquet Napkin Ring: I love mixing wood and brass for a glamorous natural element like these hexagonal napkin rings!
  4. Sentiment Napkin, Thankful: Simple linen napkins get an upgrade with a little embroidery to express the sentiments of the day.
  5. Ralph Lauren Home Wyatt Salad Bowl: A simple white porcelain bowl accented with removable leather handles is a clean and chic element to serve up a colorful salad for your guests. Then, just pop off the handles to make it dishwasher safe!
  6. Vista Hammered Copper Flatware Place Setting: Hammered copper flatware adds a metallic pop of sophistication to your farmhouse setting! And this set is so beautiful; you will want to use them every day!
  7. ‘Berry and Thread’ Rimmed Soup Bowl: Serve up some pumpkin soup in this generously sized soup bowl with a vintage berry and thread embellishment around the rim.
  8. Marble and Copper Salt & Pepper Shakers: Adding in natural elements is essential to the farmhouse look, so these marble and copper salt and pepper shakers are both fashionable and necessary!
  9. Copper Salad Servers: Toss up a yummy seasonal salad with these gorgeous copper salad servers!
  10. Chalkboard Runner: How fabulous! You can decorate this chalkboard table runner with names for each of your place settings, label your different dishes, and entertain the kids all throughout dinner!
  11. Round Copper Finish Aluminum Tray: Warm bread or cute pumpkin desserts would be stylish on this hammered copper tray!
  12. ‘The Skye Collection’ Wood Tiered Dessert Stand: Stack your appetizers and desserts high on this sophisticated wood carved two-tiered stand.
  13. Alexandra Ferguson Give Thanks Placemat: Layer in all of your fall colors starting with these bright orange placemats.
  14. Williams Sonoma Encore Goblets, Set of 4: These fabulous all-purpose goblets are great for water, iced tea, or wine for your casual Thanksgiving dinner!

The Joy of Quitting

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Yes, you read that blog title right. Sometimes it is a JOY to quit things–to just decide you will not do some things in your life anymore. Whether it’s things on your to-do list or your bucket list or maybe it’s some of your business services or social media–quitting can feel great. And oh my yes, don’t we want to quit social media sometimes?! Being a part of too many things is exhausting. I so relate to the quote above. It’s funny but for me, it’s also very true!

There are many things that most of us need to quit. And believe it or not, sometimes it’s relationships…the toxic and draining ones that only take and don’t ever fill you back up. Or maybe even ones that aren’t really taking anything from you much, but you feel guilty for not being able to give them more time. Anything that brings guilt needs to be reconsidered. And then there are all those hobbies and exercise classes and social groups and bible studies and charity boards and the PTA. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you shouldn’t be an advocate, a philanthropist, a friend or be spiritual or religious. I am just saying that it’s time to take a look at the particular groups or activities you are currently in and see if they are still the best fit for you.

But I have to tell you, quitting is one of the hardest things for me at times. It is often harder than saying no to new opportunities. As kids we were taught not to quit, right? You’ve heard all the sayings…”Don’t be a quitter”. “Winners never quit, and quitters never win”. But you know what? That is a myth, and a dangerous one at that. It is often the reason that we become overloaded, stressed out and unhappy. Because we keep adding new things, exciting things, things that seem like they will make our life better, but we don’t quit things to make room for the new. So we just cram it all in there like our days are going to magically become longer than 24 hours if we just keep stuffing more into them. Surely they will have to stretch like our stomachs do when we keep cramming food in, right? Ha! But unfortunately, our days never do.

I have learned that I have a lot of core beliefs from childhood, from my parents, from teachers, from society that are not healthy for me. It’s not that people didn’t have the best intentions when they were teaching me these ideas, it’s just that they are outdated thoughts. They don’t fit my grown up life or my goals or my health plans. They are beliefs that have become obsolete, but for some reason, we don’t get new beliefs when they stop working for us like we get newer models of cars, TVs, phones and computers. Think about it, how effective would we be if we were still using a phone or computer from 1970 or 80? Not very, right? And how many of us would look our best if we are 45 and still dressing like we are 16 or 20. Probably not many of  us. But we will continue trying to make beliefs, ideas and life lessons from our childhood or youth fit where we are today. That just doesn’t make any sense.

Not being about to quit is one of these outdated rules for me. It no longer serves me well as a core belief. I think that is true for many people including children today. When we were told not to quit, we didn’t have a schedule like a high powered CEO at age 10. But children today are expected to act and work like an adult, keep a schedule that would exhaust any grown up and they have so many choices of activities it makes their heads spin, but we still associate failure or embarrassment with quitting. So they just stay over-loaded or we let them quit, but shame them for it. Why? Why not let our kids, or us for that matter, sample something–try it on for size–and see if they/we like it? And if we don’t, then why not quit and keep looking until we find the right sport or interest or school or career or relationships that are a good fit?

As I continue on my quest this year for my 2 resolutions…1) finding more joy and 2) loving myself more, I am realizing more than ever that there are a lot of things I need to quit to be happy and healthy. And this doesn’t mean I will quit being a consultant or a designer or a mom or a wife, but there are parts of each of those things that I need to quit if I want to be the best version of me. And it doesn’t mean I will quit every group I am in or quit eating, but there are some things in my life and diet that definitely need to go if I want to feel good.

I love how Arianna Huffington says in her book Thrive that she decided just to take a bunch of pressure off of herself by simply striking a ton of things off her bucket list that she really didn’t need or want to do. She realized if they were that important to her, she would have already done them by now. What can you wipe off yours? There are several things that I am striking from my bucket list this year and a ton of things off my to-do list, and I feel great about it!

I have to remind myself that some things run their course in life and that’s ok. Some relationships come to an end and that doesn’t necessarily mean they were a failure, they just ran their course.  Some careers or business services had a great run but now it’s time to do something different with your time and resources. That’s not a bad thing. In fact its a good thing. Some exercise routines or hobbies you have tried to make stick for years need to go. They aren’t right for you or you’d be a pro at them by now.

I think back to when some of my favorite TV shows (Sex in the City, Castle, Downton Abbey) went off the air and how sad I was. But it was always better for them to go out on a high note leaving me with fond memories instead of waiting until the last possible minute, far past their prime, when they really left a bad taste in everyone’s mouth or mind. So what in your life or your business is like that? What are you tired of? What has run it’s course? What do you find yourself dreading every time you start to do it? What needs to end so you can make room for new, exciting and better offerings to your family, your friends or your customers? What should go so you can create things that are more in line with the season of life you are in right now? Again, my list is pretty long and it will take courage and guts to make changes. That’s true for us all, even when we know it’s the right thing to do, it’s hard to change.

I’m here to tell you, there is a lot freedom and a lot of JOY in quitting. Scary? Yes! Worth it? Absolutely.

If you need help deciding, read this great little book by Seth Godin called The Dip, when to quit and when to stick.  It even tells you that there are some things you should quit and quit fast! Don’t linger. And I agree. Every day you wait you are keeping yourself from more joy. And the good news is most things aren’t absolute. You can usually go back in some form or another, and maybe even a better version if you quit and regret it. So don’t let fear hold you back.

Happy Quitting, friends. I hope it brings you as much peace and JOY as it is bringing me. Think of how happy we will all be with all those weights lifted from our lives!

Joyfully yours,

 

 

 

What if?

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There have been so many years that I have created a laundry list of goals, intentions, and plans to start the new year. I’ve hit the ground running with intensity and focus. And I am not saying that I don’t have goals for the year, or at least that I will. But I am still fleshing them out, I think. I am taking my time deciding what I want for 2017. I am not putting a time limit or pesky deadline on myself. I have so many deadlines already in life, so this year I am being kind to myself. Staying peaceful and relaxed. And this cool state of mind has me wondering…

What if I only had 2 goals for this whole year, 1. Finding JOY and 2. Loving myself more? What would happen?

It’s simple, its profound. And I have a strong feeling way deep down in my gut that it might just change everything.

What do you think? Are you ready to simplify to succeed? Let’s continue this conversation in the comments.

Joyfully yours,

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