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Self-Care Saturday: Home Sweet Home

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Last week I asked if you were living the Dream and gave you my tips to help you make that happen. Today I want to remind you that sometimes the dream is right in front of your face.

For years I was busy building a BIG business and that takes a lot of time, energy and people to keep it all going. Going after your dreams like I have is exciting and rewarding. But sometimes the MOST fulfilling thing in life is not what you think. Often the most satisfying things are found in the ordinary, day-to-day, simple moments at home. That is definitely true for me.


The older I get the more I enjoy Slow-living. I’ve always been a “Home Body” for the most part. I can travel the world during the week and then never leave my house (and sometimes not even my PJ’s) on the weekends.  I never get bored being at home. There is always something that I want to cook, or bake, or create, or a new design book to read or a blog to write, or a closet to organize. And a walk in my own beautiful neighborhood, breathing in the fresh air, is the pinnacle of a perfect Saturday.

My nine-year old is currently obsessed with the book the Wizard of Oz. She was even the cutest Dorothy you’ve ever seen for Halloween. And I have to agree with Dorothy that there is absolutely “No Place Like Home”.  My home may not be all renovated and gorgeous yet, but she serves my family and me just fine. She’s a workhorse, and she gives us what we need to meet the world at our best.

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Thankfully this month I have been home a lot more than I was during most months last year. I am working hard to make being home a constant in my life…At least for a while. If you read my word of the year post, you’ll remember that my word is significance, and the most significant people and things in my life are right here at home.

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And being a lover of cooking, nesting and reading by the fire, there’s not much else that equals self-care to me than time spent at home. So today I am grateful for many days this month that I’ve cooked 3 whole-food meals a day in my own kitchen. And I am thankful for waking many early mornings at 5am and holding my pup, drinking coffee by the fire and catching up on a bit of work. I am filled with joy over the simple things in my life–the ones right here in front of my face. At Home. They are what is most important.

Wishing you as much joy in your Home Sweet Home as I find in mine! I hope it’s the perfect place to fill your cup.


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p.s. To see the fruits of all my nesting, organizing and cooking at home, be sure to follow me on Instagram.

Self-care Saturday: What Does Living Your Dream Look Like?

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Happy Saturday Everyone! Are you “Living the Dream” today? Do you even REALLY know what your dreams are?

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One of the biggest forms of self-care and fulfillment is to actually live your purpose and reach your potential. Nothing gives you peace and joy more than knowing you are using your talents and gifts to their best ability. It is self-care at it’s highest form.

never waitSo if you’re not living your dreams, why? Is is because you don’t know what you want? Or more likely you are afraid to embrace the risks, challenges and hard work that going after the life that you dream about would bring? Or you have a bit of trouble (or a lot of it) believing that you are worthy of all that success?

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Well here are my best pieces of advice for seizing the day and really going after what you want most…


1. Write it down. That might be one writing exercise on a quiet afternoon when you are not stressed or harried. But for me it is journaling on a regular basis. I do this at night when I am relaxed before bed, or early in the morning when my mind is clear. Just stream of consciousness journaling often gets me to what is in my gut or at the heart of my desires. I buy myself pretty journals to make myself want to write and I always have my favorite gel pen or fine tip sharpie which makes writing fun too.

2. Count Your Blessings. I keep an ongoing gratitude journal. I have kept a gratitude journal for years, but about 2 years ago I started keeping it sequentially in a big spiral-bound notebook. My blessings are up into the thousands now after 2 years. Looking back on what brings me REAL joy helps me know what I really want more of in my life.

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3. Ask yourself “What do I dread, procrastinate on or feel obligated to?” Or even “What makes me angry?” Write it down. Finding those ball and chains that are around your emotions and around your daily life, will help you decide what you want LESS of in your life. If you are filling your time with too many “I have to’s” then there is not enough time for many “I want to’s”.  I know you will say “but Tobi I do HAVE to”. But if you are honest, some things can go and others can be reimagined to make you enjoy them more or be done by someone else.

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4. And then ask yourself “What does my Perfect Day look like?” Write that down too. This may sound like pie in the sky, but I don’t believe that it is. I just made some tweaks to my perfect day recently and I am living it regularly now. Things had gotten out of control and so I hit the reset button and asked myself, “What do I want my schedule to be?”. I made a few adjustments and my family and my staff were no worse for the wear. If you don’t work for yourself like I do, you may have a little less control of your day, but it never hurts to ask. You might get a yes!

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5. Adopt a no excuses mentality. This is the big one. If you are going to live your dreams you have to leap. Now, making an educated and smart leap is a good idea. Maybe don’t quit your day job that pays the bills when you haven’t built your new dream career yet. But DO start building your dream career on the side and when it is making enough money, quit that day job!

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But don’t wait. Will you be more tired for a year or so trying to build your dream and keep your head above water? Maybe. But it will be TOTALLY worth it. So leap my friends and leap quickly before you change your mind!

I hope that these ideas will help you start Living the Life You Have Imagined. I live my dream life and I would never go back to any other option! Now I am in the process of making it even dreamier…stay tuned.


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Selfcare Saturday: A New Year, A Better You!

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day planner I saw a great comment by Mastin Kipp a few days ago that said “Forget the idea of a New Year, a New You–you don’t need a NEW you, you just need to lean into the YOU that you already are!” I LOVE this thought. It’s so true. He’s saying that we should be authentic. We should own who we really are. quote You know Mastin is on to something. Why are we always trying to be someone different, instead of just being really great at who we are? I spent some time yesterday creating a Pinterest board all about the things that I already do that I want to do more of in 2015 and a few things I want to add into my life in 2015 (or even stop doing) that will make the “me” I already am even a bit better.

So check out my Pinterest board called A New Year, A Better You. It has everything from How to become that Neat Freak You’ve always wanted to be by Pop Sugar. And yes, I truly love being neat! how to organize To some gorgeous mint green Nike’s that might make me want to lace up even more often and work out. shoe There is a link to How to Organize your Time Better in the New Year. Office table with notepad, computer and flower. View from above with copy space And 5 reasons you should have a Fitbit. (I agree, I’ve had one for years now and just got a new Fitbit Flex). fitbit I posted this cute gratitude journal that might inspire you to keep track of your blessings all year long. You can buy this cutie one on Etsy. gratitude And I even pinned a guide from Lauren Conrad on what healthy supplements we should be taking. Navigating the vitamin and supplement world is confusing sometimes. lauren conrad And I have some great quotes like the one above on self care on the board and I’ve pinned my favorite Whitney English Day planner with a link to buy it in the pink Ikat (shown above) a cute store in Little Rock . This Pink one is the one I have and I am loving the pink feminine touch on my favorite planner this year. There is SO much more on this New Year, Better You Pinterest board from healthy recipes, to my favorite treadmill desk (yes, I WILL get one in 2015), to how to ferment foods for a healthy gut, to the new Tony Robbins book on Money Mastery and there is a fantastic Yoga Glossary that is great for anyone who loves yoga but especially if you are new to it.

Seriously, if it’s on my radar or agenda for 2015, it’s probably on this Pinterest Board. And keep checking back as I will be adding new pins in the coming days and weeks. I am excited about 2015 and I can’t wait to use this new Pinterest tool I’ve created to remind me of my intentions.  And if you feel up to it, you might want to create a similar board of your own. I can see how this board is going to be a great go-to for me–a place to check in on a regular basis and keep myself on track with being authentic and the best me I can be.

Happy Self-care Saturday Friends and Happy Pinning! I’m off to organize my closet, buy some healthy groceries and get ready for a great 2015!



Self-care (I mean Santa-care) Saturday!

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Elle giftsI have a handful of favorite days and traditions every year. Today is one of them. It’s not always the Saturday before Christmas, but each year there is at least one day that my mom and I head out together, just the two of us, to finish up our Christmas shopping so we can have everyone a gift (or several) under the tree. And today is that day! Tobi Christmas elle It’s never a day we plan for, it just always seems that close to Christmas we join forces to finish marking off all those we love that are still on our list. And we might just play a little bit of “Santa’s Little Helper”, so the big guy covers all the wishes of the little ones in our lives. So maybe it’s the spontaneity of this day that makes me love it so much, because trust me, I am one of the least spontaneous people I know. Can you say Control Freak! But whatever the reason, I adore this yearly shopping Tradition. Bebe Christmas denMany of you know or have seen my mom–this is the room in mom’s house where we gather around the tree on Christmas Eve. Mom and I are very close (attached at the hip) and I cherish days like today so much when we are gathering last minute goodies together. It does wonders for my soul and my spirit to spend a day with her all by myself (oh and the thousands of other people out there doing last minute shopping). She’s such an easy person to be with. Plus we think alike and do things alike. After all, she taught me everything I know. Bebe ChristmasAnd mom and I both LOVE to buy things for others. It really IS better to give than to receive and we are both famous for splurging on those we love. Look at all those gorgeous gifts under mom’s tree. Gifting feels soooo good, doesn’t it? Bebe christmas 2 So today I am filling my soul with a little Mama time. And this afternoon we’ll pick up my 9-year old, who happens to look exactly like my mom, and let her finish her Christmas shopping for her daddy and our pup Izzy too. Three generations, shopping together. What’s more fun than that? Tobi-Christmas-Tree-600x800 It’s going to be one of the best self-care Saturdays of all of 2014. So jump on the Self-care Saturday bandwagon today. I hope you are doing something to get in the Christmas Spirit that also that fills your Soul. You deserve it!

And I hope you enjoyed all these photos of what holidays look like at my house and at my mom’s. Merry Christmas Friends! And in the words of Pretty Woman…”I have to go shopping now.” xo,

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Christmas Here We Come and I’m Rested, Relaxed and Ready! Are you?

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Hello Friends! I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. I have to say that mine was low-key and perfect. I am now rested and ready to take on the Christmas season. And speaking of rest and Christmas, I have a different sort of wish list this year.

Believe it or not, this Work-a-holic REALLY took some days off last week. Shocker, right! Yes, I just had a 6 day reprieve from the hectic schedule I have been keeping all of 2014 and boy did I ever need it!

IMG_5362And though I wasn’t working, I did lots of other things I love, like cooking the Thanksgiving meal with my mom and sister-in-law. Here’s a great Autumn Chopped Salad that I made just before I tossed it.  It was beautiful and delicious!

IMG_5368And I spent a lot of quality time with my family–cuddling with my girl, making Rice Crispy treats, playing games with my niece and nephew and watching lots of football with my hubby, my dad and my brother. Oh the furry family members watched football with us too.


I am so glad that I took the time to remember that these are the important things in life. There have been many holiday seasons that I didn’t. We all say we know what’s important, but how many times do we make excuses for why we can’t focus on the important things?  We have that laundry list of excuses like “I can’t afford to” or “I don’t have time to” or “I have to work” or “there’s so much to do to get ready for”… and the list goes on and on all the while we are missing time and things that we can’t get back. And work will always be there now won’t it? So why not make “the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” really wonderful this year!


The timing  of this week of R & R was perfect to get me relaxed and re-focused so I can finish the year strong and get ready for 2015. The New Year may just be my favorite time of year. I love the fresh start, the setting of goals and intentions and all the excitement that comes with wrapping up one year while celebrating our successes and then moving our focus to the next year full of hope and opportunity for greatness. I was getting a bit over-tired and I needed more stamina to take on all that planning and goals setting that will soon be at hand. Now that I filled myself back up, I am ready to go. Bring it on Christmas and 2015! I’ve got this.

instagramchallengeSo I know this isn’t Self-care Saturday, but let’s make it Self-care Sunday instead. I think it’s important for me to remind all of you that if you don’t take care of Y-O-U, you can’t possibly take care of anyone else. If you don’t get some R & R you may just find yourself in a heap of exhaustion under the Tree. So put those excuses away and work in some time for you this busy time of year. Don’t skip your work-outs. Make time for Yoga. Get plenty of sleep. Spend time with Friends. Get a massage. Drink lots of water. Yes, I sound like your mother but I am speaking to myself too. To help us out, there is even a Holiday Self-care challenge happening on Instagram using #holidayselfcare as the tag.


This is a time to be kind to those we love and who better to love first than yourself. Treat yourself like you are your best friend. Set yourself up for success. Plan self-care in today while you are writing out your Christmas Shopping List. Plan it now before your schedule fills up. There IS time for self-care if you plan it in the schedule and if you believe you have time for it. It’s all a mindset. Taking an hour or two out of your day to take care of  YOU won’t keep you from getting everything done. It will give you the stamina to get it all done. There are lots of tips online for surviving the holidays. Here are a few simple tips for taking care of yourself this holiday season and remembering what’s really important.


And what about being healthy during this super sugary time of year? Just this weekend I was finishing up Tory Johnson’s great book called The Shift. There were many amazing parts of this book. My copy is all marked up and underlined and highlighted. But the biggest Ah-ha moment in the book for me was this…Preference or Priority. I know it may be your preference to just sit around and watch TV after a long day, but if your health is a priority, go to yoga class instead. Preference–eating all those holiday sweets. Priority–being healthy in the New Year so make healthy choices this Christmas instead. I know it may not sound fun now, but come January your blood pressure and your waistline will thank you. You will be well on your way to making 2015 your healthiest year yet.


So there you have it friends, my reminder to you (but actually I’m speaking to myself) that the busiest time of the year is the time that it’s most important not to fall off the wagon of all the things that make us feel joyful, healthy and great. Will you join me in making this Christmas Happy AND Healthy. We can do this together.


Merry Christmas and Happy Healthy Holidays Y’all! xo,

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