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Saturday’s Secret Sauce: Cluttered Life, Cluttered Mind

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I just spent a week doing manual labor. Yep, I worked my Spring Break away doing Spring Cleaning and I may be a bit tired but I feel so energized! Thanks to the help of my super-duper packer Amy, we opened EVERY single box of my belongings that is stored while we are renovating our home and I purged about half or more of those items.  Amy then repacked the things that made the cut so they are ready for my move in a few weeks. Plus, they are all organized by which room they will live in at the newly remodeled house.

I then headed back to my condo and I cleaned out and organized all our closets, drawers, and discarded many things I don’t need from our kitchen. We are living with what we thought was the bare minimum in our condo during our renovation. Still, I was able to get rid of many boxes of things we have hardly used while we have been here for the last 7 months.

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This sort of organizing isn’t unusual for me. Typically, I clean out and discard more than once a year in smaller ways and at least 1 BIG purge every year or two. It brings me joy. I did a huge week of organizing before we moved out of our last house two years ago and then got rid of a lot when we moved out of our current house back in the fall to start the renovation. But this time, the organizing was different thanks my learning the Kon Mari method designed by Marie Kondo. Last weekend leading up to my planned Spring Break Organizing Extravaganza, I read The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up and it’s sequel, Spark Joy. I have had these books on my kindle for a while, but I am SO thankful that I made time to read them before I tackled my belongings this week.4

Yes, I am an organized person for sure. I love to have a place for everything and everything in it’s place. I even splurged extra cabinetry in my remodel because I would rather have built-in storage that functions perfectly, than spend that same amount of money or more, on furniture and organizing gadgets that are far less functional when it comes to storing and organizing our belongings.

But now that I used the Kon Mari method (soon to be paired with my dreamy new cabinetry and closets), my yearly purging may get to be a thing of the past! Yes, Marie Kondo says that if you use her concept of only keeping things that truly “Spark Joy” in your life, that you will never again lose control of your home and your things. And you won’t have to waste precious time organizing in the future.

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I have to admit, I can already tell a difference in my thinking. I am much more hesitant to buy things that I don’t TRULY love, because I don’t want to have to find a place for them. I also really enjoyed touching everything I own last week, deciding which things to keep, and making plans for storing those items in a place where I can get to them easily. I have confidence that I will actually use everything I kept and not just for special occasions.

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Can you imagine this kind of organizing in your life? The interesting thing is that we are creatures of habit and we tend to use and wear the same things over and over. So it’s really sensible to use Marie’s method of getting rid of anything that doesn’t bring you joy. She warns you of the “I might need this one day” way of thinking. And she’s right. Why keep random tools, gadgets, kitchen items or clothing and store them for 2, 6, or even 14 years on the off chance you may need it. She reminds us that if we do, many times we won’t be able to find what we need when we need it anyway, and we would just go buy a replacement. So why not trust getting rid of things now, since we will probably buy what we need later if a need arises. This way of thinking can free us of years of storing things and surrounding ourselves with clutter for not much benefit or more likely, to our detriment. And It’s probably not even a cost savings to have it on hand for a “once every 10 year use”, right?

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I don’t know about you, but clutter makes me crazy. And even if you think things bring you comfort, what if you are wrong? What if the stress, anxiety, and tension in your life could be eliminated by removing the “things” that don’t bring you joy and that clutter your home and your mind. Wouldn’t you be happier if you could always find what you were looking for in your home? Think of how much time and energy you would save.

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When I have physical clutter in my life, it equals mental clutter for me. And I don’t like that. I prefer to be sharp and focused so I can be my best every day. And when my home is tidy, I enjoy it and my family so much more. Plus I find myself going the extra mile to do other things that bring me peace and joy, like lighting a candle or bringing home fresh flowers, cooking home-made meals, and sitting down at the table together as a family. This all happens more when my home is beautiful and tidy and clean. It’s important. And it nurtures me. It fills me up.

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Honestly, nothing makes me happier than being completely organized and knowing where all my things are for living, entertaining, and traveling. In my mid 20’s I had a time when I let things get a bit out of control for me with my closets. And one day after spending what seemed like an hour but was probably 5-10 minutes looking for the mate to one of my shoes, I swore I would never again get that stressed out just trying to get dressed for work. So I got organized.

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But the last 2 years while we were living in our newly purchased home that was dated and in dire need of renovation (but waiting for me to have time in my schedule to take on the project), I was reminded of how stressful and depressing a disorganized and dysfunctional home can be. We had old cabinetry without adjustable shelves that our dishes would hardly fit in. We had a giant garden tub that could fit 10 people, but a tiny master bedroom closet with only room for my husband’s things. I stored all my clothes upstairs but slept downstairs. My daughter’s room had no storage to speak of, so the corners were constantly stacked with toys and stuffed animals and art supplies and clutter. Many days this lack of design and function made me want to SCREAM!

But it also made me aware of and grateful for the peace of mind that a well-designed and organized home can bring. Interior Designers and Organizers are NOT a luxury. They are an investment in quality of life.

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And now thanks to Marie Kondo, I have taken my organizing habits to a higher level than ever before. And while I haven’t moved out of our temporary condo living, I am already feeling the pleasure of my hard work. I lay in bed at night dreaming of how much easier it will be to get moved back into our home. I smile at the thought of enjoying all my favorite design books in my new study, all my gadgets and tools in my organized kitchen and easily setting the table to entertain friends in the dining room. And even better, I dream of my new closet (that’s not that big, but is downstairs off my bedroom) being just the perfect size for all my things.

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So I believe that being organized is the secret sauce to a well-lived and stress-free life. I agree with Marie Kondo that tidying up is truly life-changing and magical. And I hope you will try it for yourself. I know it will be life-changing for you too.

Happy Spring Cleaning Friends and Happy Easter! xo,

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Saturday’s Secret Sauce: Reading and Learning (and a book list!)

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Many of you enjoy my Saturday posts, that for me are all about living a beautiful, healthy, and happy life. One of the ways that I constantly engage in living my purpose and finding joy in the day to day is through reading and studying. So if you want to do the same, here are a few of my favorite recent reads. Not all of these are new books, but to me, they are all remarkable and definitely on my list of must reads!

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Rising Strong by Brene Brown

I am a HUGE fan of Brene Brown since reading Daring Greatly a few years ago. I then fell in love with her research through her amazing TED talk on Shame (it’s currently been viewed over 6 million times) and her appearances on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday. Still, I was hesitant to read this book at first. Mainly because I thought it was for people who had experienced great tragedy or loss and had to rise from it, and I didn’t really identify with that. Boy, was I wrong. This book is about rising out of the defeats and challenges that come from taking risks and growing in everyday life. I found the first couple of chapters harder to get into than Daring Greatly but I soon found myself unable to put it down.

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The Charge by Brendon Burchard

This book by Peak Performance coach Brendon Burchard is inspiring. It’s a study of what drives us as humans and how to create a regular practice that helps us squeeze the most out of our lives and relationships. If you want to have a zest for life and deeper connections with friends and your partner or spouse this book will tell you how. If you want to feel like you are living a SUPER-charged life everyday, don’t miss Brendon’s road map for that kind of life all spelled out in The Charge!

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The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Another FANTASTIC book by Brene Brown, this one was written back in 2010 yet I felt like it was written yesterday. Of all Brene’s books I’ve read, I think this was the most life-changing for me. In fact, it just moved up to my top 5 books ever read and it could possibly be #1. If you read my Saturday’s Secret Sauce about Finding the Courage to be Imperfect, you know that I am starting to understand that Perfectionism isn’t an either/or but something we all have in different degrees. Well I was encouraged to find that Brene’s research proves this same idea. This book is a life-changing look at how we can all deal with our personal challenges and insecurities on the path to living what Brene calls a “Whole-hearted” life. If you read nothing else, read this book!!

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Carry on Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton

One of my Besties, Kim,  introduced me to this book at the beach last Summer and I read it about 24 hours. Now I am on the edge of my seat waiting for Glennon’s next book to come out this August. This astonishingly frank book is about one woman’s struggle with every vice and issue you can imagine. And it is like a breath of fresh air, especially when you find how she was (and is) living a messy life (like we all do in our own ways), while all the world was looking at her and thinking she had the perfect life–a happy family, she’s a real beauty with a handsome husband and seemingly perfect and gorgeous kids, she comes from a great family with supportive parents–how in the world could someone like this have problems? But you have to read this book because she does, just like we all do. Plus follow Glennon on Instagram to see how she navigates a messy life with humor and beauty. You’ll love her!

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Off Balance: Getting Beyond the Work-life balance by Matthew Kelly

How many of you are trying to balance work and life and failing (or even failing miserably) at it? Yep, I know. It’s impossible right? I love this book that in some ways lets you off the hook because Matthew Kelly tells us how (thankfully) there is really no such thing as work-life balance. I have suspected this for years! But what he does help us do is define our priorities and learn to manage our energy to get the most of our days which I now agree is far more important than managing our time!

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I hope you enjoy these great reads.  I am certain that in my life, reading and learning are the Secret Sauce for making me all I am meant to be and keeping me sane in the process. And thanks to these books and others, there are now many things in my life I have stopped doing. But there is one thing I will never stop doing…Learning!

Happy Saturday friends. I wish you a relaxing day of staying in your PJ’s and reading all day long!

xo,

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Saturday’s Secret Sauce: Building Others Up, Not Tearing Them Down

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Life isn’t easy. And we humans have a way of making life even harder than it has to be sometimes. I am a big believer in the late Dr. Wayne Dyer’s philosophy of taking 100% responsibility for where we are in our lives at any given moment, even if where we are isn’t where we want to be. And even if the reason we are there is because we haven’t made the smartest choices or we haven’t had the courage to go after our dreams. This idea is all about not blaming others for where we are and taking responsibility so we can move beyond that place and into our purpose.

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But just for a minute I think we need to talk about what else may be holding us back (particularly for women) as we dare greatly to be our best. And that’s all the armchair critics that no matter how hard we try, are always waiting in the wings at any and every opportunity to tear us down. This mean and hurtful behavior is becoming epidemic these days, and that is so unfortunate. It has become increasingly worse thanks to blogs and social media. I guess it’s the bad that comes with the good of technology today. 

One of my new favorite quotes (new to me but not new) is so familiar to me these days because of my obsession with and admiration for the work of Dr. Brene Brown on shame and vulnerability. Brene sets the tone for her research, work, and writing with this famous quote from Teddy Roosevelt…

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”  –Teddy Roosevelt

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We are all being vulnerable when we put ourselves out there every day and dare to chase our dreams, find our passions and live our purpose. We are being brave and daring greatly when we start businesses, do creative work, write blogs or books, document our lives on Instagram and social media and anything else that we do publicly that requires us to show up in the world in order to grow our incomes, go after our goals and dreams, and support our families.

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But it is those critics that are not even “in the arena getting marred by dust and sweat and blood” that thanks to social media can criticize with ease. They can leave negative comments, pick apart our work and creativity, and in some instances even attack, demean and abuse others, from the comfort of their arm-chairs or while hiding behind their computers and electronics.

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And although logically I can comprehend that these critics are miserable, or mean, or jealous or any other number of things that make them want the world and anyone brave enough to put themselves out there, to be as unhappy as the critic, I just really don’t understand it. My mind can’t get around it. And my heart feels bad for those being criticized. But feels almost worse for the critics because I can’t even imagine how truly miserable they must be to want to tear others down in this way. Does it really make them feel better to leave a rude comment? My guess is no, or at least not for very long.

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Why do we as humans feel like we have the right to be critics of everything and everyone in the world around us? And even when we think it, what gives us the right to express it, leave a negative comment, or tear down others work and creativity? Well one might say that maybe that’s what people are asking for, or that they are opening themselves up to it when they use a public forum like a blog to express their ideas, thoughts and work. And maybe this is true. But there is a difference in a critique and criticism. There is a difference in disagreeing and being mean or rude or abusive. One can disagree without being unkind. We all have the right to not love someone’s work or even their behavior, but still not attack them personally.

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And yes both genders are guilty of these behaviors but as a woman, I find that women can be some of the most critical, especially of other women. Call me Pollyanna, but I want to live in a world where women champion women. I remember how girls acted in middle school and my daughter is currently in middle school and the ways girls can be mean is so much worse than 30 years ago when I was her age. We didn’t have cell phones and social media to bully each other with back then. But it’s not just relegated to middle school. I see the same rude and bullying behaviors from adults.

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If you are a designer or have visited any of the shelter magazine social media sites, you have witnessed dozens or even hundreds of people tearing apart the rooms and projects of designers on a daily basis. When I read these rude comments about my own work, I typically laugh it off or ignore it. But when I see people criticize the truly great work of my friends and my design idols, I realize that the critics likely have not been exposed to sophisticated design work or art and don’t even understand it, so their comments are ignorant or at the least short sighted. But there in lies the problem. If we don’t understand something or we are afraid of it, human nature can be to criticize it. But why not appreciate it, or try to learn about it? Isn’t this this same age old problem that has divided races and religions and political parties? In a year where the criticizing, demeaning and ridiculous insults in the presidential election are at an all time high, I think you know what I mean. Our own insecurities keep us from being open-minded about art or creativity and also about much bigger social issues.

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I consider myself lucky and I feel loved and supported so often. I have many, many more people being kind and leaving supportive comments or reaching out to me by email or even in person in support of my work and my writing and my product designs. The compliments are far more numerous than those tearing me down. But even so, the occasional rude comments can sting. And I see and hear of many others in my own industry and in other industries that are struggling under the weight of the criticism they are receiving. It is so sad how many brave souls have stopped striving towards their dreams because of a few mean comments expressed by others whose opinions really shouldn’t matter. And worse yet, what a shame that so many people are afraid to even try because their fear of what others will say or think holds them back.

I work to teach my daughter that “What others think of us is none of our business”. But in her new book Rising Strong, Brene Brown says that totally not caring what others think of you isn’t a good thing either. It can make you apathetic about your life and work or worse, can cause you to relax your morals or not have integrity. She says you should have a small circle of people who really count to you and those are the only people in your life whose opinions should really matter. And she says that all the names of those important people in your life should fit on ONE Post-it note. I love this idea! So if the critics names aren’t on my Post-it note then I give myself permission to ignore their comments, to let it go.

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Thankfully I had a great example for how to treat others from my mom who definitely taught me if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything. But what she stressed to me even more was that everyone isn’t just like you and that doesn’t make you better or worse than them. Everyone has the right to be themselves and you don’t have to like it, but it’s not your place to tear them down. She taught me to love other people and learn to appreciate our differences. And she taught me that hating someone else is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. Hate will kill you while the other person lives on often even unscathed.

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So yes it may be Pollyanna, but I want to live in a world where people love people. I want to celebrate other people’s successes as well as my own. I want to live in a world where women champion women. Where creatives, and entrepreneurs, and others daring greatly are celebrated even when not understood. I want to raise my daughter in a world where people are applauded just for getting in the ring, even if you don’t think their art or work or craft is great or beautiful or meaningful, but because they were brave enough to even try, which is far more than the armchair critics are doing. And even if the critic is in the arena too, I would caution them to not tear others down because like these critics,  I believe that Karma will also be waiting in the wings and there will be a moment when they too will fall or be criticized and it doesn’t feel good.

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Building each other up, now THAT is some real secret sauce. And my hope is that it will be become much less of a secret.

Sending you love and the courage to put yourself out there, to get in the arena even if you are afraid. I encourage you to find beauty in our differences and to celebrate all those brave souls putting themselves out in the world even if you don’t agree with them. Supporting each other is the only way to REALLY make our world a better place.

Happy Saturday, friends! xo,

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Saturday’s Secret Sauce: Enjoy the Little Things!

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Today I am a Dance Mom. Probably not like the ones on the show I’ve heard about, ha! But today I am the mom of a dancer. Today I’m not an Interior Designer, or a Product Designer, or a Blogger, or a Baker, or a Yogi, or Business Consultant. I am just a Dance Mom.

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Yesterday life was hard. You know those days when everything you do seems like a challenge? There seemed to be a problem or a complication with just about every part of the day, and I found it really hard to focus on the good. I found it difficult to count my blessings. Which when I stepped back, was silly. I was being spoiled. My problems were so teeny, tiny in the grand scheme of life. But in the trenches they seemed enormous. They weren’t. I complained a lot. It didn’t make be feel better.

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As much as I would like to think I have it all together, many days I feel like a mess. I feel like nothing’s working. I feel like a disaster. And many of you may be thinking “Wow, if you are a disaster, Tobi, then what am I?” But you see that’s the thing. We are all disasters. And we are all perfect. All at the same time. And we all look at each other and think that we are the only ones who don’t have it all together. That we are the only mess. We are all a mess. We must embrace the mess.

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But no matter how big of a mess I am, there are days that I am a Dance Mom. Even when I don’t have time to be a Dance Mom. Even when I have a million other things that I should be doing instead of spending 10 hours out of town at a dance competition, there is absolutely NOTHING more important. Because in between goals, there is a thing called life that has to be lived and enjoyed.

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Because while I am telling myself how important a billion other things are, and how anything else is a distraction, it’s not really true. And I don’t even mean it. Or believe it. People will survive without me. Designs will wait one more day. Clients and staff can make it through the weekend. But my daughter will not dance her little heart out without me on the sidelines. She will know if I am not there. And I wouldn’t miss it for the world.

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I think the REAL secret sauce above all other sauce is to enjoy the little things. It’s not a secret. We know this, right?  So why is it so hard to practice? Why do we make living so much harder than it has to be? Why do we keep joy at arm’s length? Why can’t we just lean into it, and relax, and drink it up? Why do we lie to ourselves about what we have time for? The truth is that we have absolutely the perfect amount of time to do what is really important to us. So it’s not a time issue, it’s a priority issue.

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Both Oxford Dictionary and the Urban Dictionary say the word that means “Calm down and relax” is Chillax. And that is my daughter’s mantra or as she calls it her “catch phrase”. In fact she deemed it her 2015 word of the year and she’s 10. Maybe it should have been mine. Obviously, she’s wise beyond her years. It’s most certainly her daily advice to me. “Chillax, Mom”. So today I will Chillax–both calm down AND relax. And I will breathe. And I will be. Just be. With her. Chillaxin’.

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Today my priority is Dance Mom. And I will be the best darn (and most Chillaxed) Dance Mom I can be. It’s funny, isn’t it? And it’s great. Life is Amazing…if we let it be.

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People are what’s important. Moments are Precious. The wise say “collect moments, not things”. That’s why they are wise. From the moment, a woman is pregnant everyone around us says, “It goes so fast!” “Soak it up.” “Time flies, they will be grown in a flash”. And before your baby is even here, you tire of hearing it. Ok already! Geez. we get it, it’s fast. But boy is it ever fast! It is so freaking fast. Ten years later seems like 10 seconds. It’s like lightening. If you blink…gone.

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I will never have this day again, so today I am a Dance Mom. And I will soak it in. I will engrave it in my memory. And I will enjoy every minute of it, because this my friends, is the Secret Sauce.

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Saturday’s Secret Sauce: Finding Your Passion

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Passion. It’s what sets me on fire. It’s what drives me. It is what has made me work like a dog for 17 years–or really my entire life. But don’t get me wrong. I have loved working that hard because I am passionate about Interior Design and product design, and I am even more passionate about being an entrepreneur. Building businesses, creating revenue streams, reaching my business goals–these things keep me up at night and get me up in the morning. Work. It’s what I do. I am passionate about my work.

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And yes, it can be hard. But I am one of the lucky ones. My passion is my purpose. I have never had to make a living doing something that doesn’t inspire me, that isn’t fun, that I don’t like. I work in my passion every day. And yes there are days that my job is hard and moments that are less fun than others. There are days that I wish I could rest, but I don’t. I push harder. I work a little longer. I make my dreams happen. Why? Because I can’t NOT do it.

So what is Passion? Well it is defined in a few ways…

  1. An intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction
  2. The state or capacity of being acted upon by external agents or forces
  3. A strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object or concept

And when it comes to my passion(s) these all make sense. I definitely feel “an intense, driving feeling” and sometimes like I am being “acted upon by external forces”.  And my passion is certainly a “devotion to an activity or concept”. I can’t turn it off. Working at what I love is not elective or optional for me. And because of that, I have a really hard time stopping or relaxing. For better or worse, my passion is often all consuming.

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My daughter is 10 and a half and she is crazy about baking. She says she wants to own a bakery when she grows up. I don’t know if she will really want that when the time comes to choose a career, but at the very least I believe it will be her passion for the rest of her life. She bakes several times a week and often everyday. She feels a “devotion” to baking.

She loves cooking too. She cooks her own meals and often cooks my husband’s even though I cook all the time and would be happy to prepare meals for the family. They have the same tastes in food and she loves to take good care of her daddy. She never thinks of baking or cooking as a chore.

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And although I have an extremely busy life myself full of my own passions, I am having a fun time being her trusty baking assistant. I think it is important to help her pursue her interests and dreams. I think it’s critical for me to invest in her passions at an early age. Plus her creations are so pretty and delicious and she’s getting orders from our friends and my clients, how could I not support that?

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And she’s going after her dreams in a big way. The week before last she made a chocolate chip bundt cake for the family of a close friend of ours who passed away, she made 3 dozen cupcakes for another friend of mine to deliver to the doctors and nurses that helped my friend through cancer treatments, she made 4 dozen homemade chocolate chip cookies for her classmates because they were studying the Ghirardelli company and the history of chocolate. That same week she also made the birthday cake for one of my very favorite clients, another bundt cake for a friend, and 2 dozen cookies for my nephew who is away at college. Whew! And if that weren’t enough, she and I made Chocolate French Macarons and 15 mini loaves of Banana Bread in our spare time. This week she was back at it again making 3 dozen cupcakes for my friend and spa-owner’s business event. And though I make sure she is safe, she does all of this baking and cooking on her own with very little help from me.

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Do you know what I call her love of baking that happens every single day including week nights and all weekend long? Crazy?..Well maybe. Exhausting?…Sometimes. But what I really call it is passion. My little chef and mini entrepreneur is passionate about baking. She never grows tired of it. She’s always up for making a new recipe whether it’s early in the morning or late at night. I think it may really be her purpose. It will be fun to watch her life unfold and see if she thinks so too long term. At the very least, it’s her purpose right now. She’s making people happy with her confections. And it keeps her happy, and energetic, and out of trouble, and from being bored. It gives her confidence. It feeds her soul. And if she’s not in the kitchen concocting something, she’s watching a cooking or baking show like Master Chef Jr. or the Kids Baking Championship on TV or Netflix and planning her next meal or recipe.

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This child literally “eats” and breathes baking and cooking (pun intended) and every gift she gets or dollar she spends has something to do with her passion. She received REAL junior cookware and junior Wusthof knives from Williams Sonoma for Christmas and boxes and bows and ribbons and tags and a personalized stamp with “from the kitchen of” and her name so she can dress up all her creations and let people know they were hand-made by her. And this month when other kids were wanting candy and stuffed animals and sweets for Valentine’s day, she asked for a red hand-held Kitchenaid mixer for Valentines day. This girl is hooked!

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It’s so fun to see how people react to my daughter’s cooking skills and abilities. It’s not unlike how people react to my Interiors. It’s great to see how much they love her food. And I believe the response is because people can tell when you are passionate about something. People love to support others in their pursuit of their passions. It is fun. It’s exciting. It’s inspiring.

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For a happy and fulfilling life, I think finding your passion is everything. And yes, you may have more than one. But there is only room in your days for a handful of things to be really passionate about. My daughter is lucky. She is 1o and she has already found one of hers. I am lucky, I have been working in my passion for almost 2 decades.

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Where are you on the path of finding your passion? Do you listen to your heart and do you follow it to make your passion your life’s work? And if you don’t, why not? Maybe you know what your passion is (or what it used to be) and you’ve lost it. Well that happens to us all. Author and peak performance expert Brendon Burchard (author of the fabulous book The Charge), says there are 4 things to help you re-ignite your passion…

  1. Rest–a good night’s sleep on a regular basis keeps you energized and engaged in your passions. When you get too tired, you often fall off the wagon of living your passion or in your sweet spot. Can’t get enough sleep at night? Try taking a nap or meditating for similar benefits.
  2. Visualization–Get away from other people, your job and your phone on a weekly basis so you can dream again. Go to that place physically and figuratively where you can visualize what you really want. In the busyness of work and life, we lose sight of what we want most. Try to visualize your dreams every night and every morning to keep it top of mind and keep your passion for those things stoked and focused.
  3. Triggers–Set up triggers so you are reminded of your passion regularly. Try reminders on your phone or your mirror, or listen to certain videos, affirmations, or music that inspires you. Only you know what will trigger you to go to your passion place so make these triggers unavoidable.
  4. Celebrating Wins–Allow yourself to celebrate even small wins when they occur–which may even be daily. So many of us just go from one accomplishment to another without ever patting ourselves on the back, writing it down, or acknowledging  these wins at all. By celebrating them, it helps you stay connected with the emotions you feel when you do win, and that can reconnect you with your passions more often.

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So go out and find or re-ignite your passion. To do that you have to listen to your heart and take action. Your passions are waiting for you.

And don’t beat yourself up if you aren’t feeling your passion right now or you’re experiencing burnout. It happens to all of us. I have been going through that very thing just recently. But I am excited to say practicing these tips above, especially rest, has helped me move beyond being stuck and back into a place of motivation so that I can reach even bigger dreams and live in my passion this year.

Yes, finding your passion is the secret sauce to a life that is happy and fulfilled. Good luck!

xo,

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IMG_5077Speaking of Celebrating our successes, try celebrating with my family’s favorite cake. Here, my daughter made the recipe in her mini bundt pans so we could each have our own personal celebratory dessert!

Chocolate Chip Pound Cake:

1 Yellow Cake Mix

1 pkg Chocolate Instant Pudding Mix (3.9 ounces)

1/2 Cup Sugar

3/4 Cup Water

3/4 Cup Vegetable Oil

4 Eggs, beaten

1 Cup Sour Cream

1/2 Cup Semi-sweet Mini Chocolate Chips

Preheat Oven to 325 degrees. Grease and Flour 10″ bundt pan. In electric mixer, add cake mix, pudding and sugar. Add oil, water, eggs and sour cream and mix until well blended. Fold in Chocolate Chips. Bake for 50-60 minutes in preheated oven. Cake is done when toothpick comes out clean. Cool in pan for 10 minutes before inverting onto wire rack to completely cool. Dust with powdered sugar and serve.