It’s hard to take a leap and try something new, or to launch a new idea, company, or product. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself, and your ideas, out there for the world to judge and evaluate. But when your concept or service is a really good one, it’s so worth it!
So many of us are afraid of failure, that our companies won’t make it or that the idea that we think is fabulous might not strike a chord with anyone else. But a lot of people are afraid of success, too. It’s that thought that we shouldn’t “get our hopes up,” or that believing that something great can’t happen for us and we’ll just be disappointed if we think it will. It can be paralyzing and can keep so many from taking a leap in their careers.
This is such a common feeling that there are therapists and books that specialize in helping people see that they should never fear success. Fear of success can make people feel that if their idea does hit big, then people might accuse them of “selling out” or becoming someone else that isn’t authentic.
People who fear success also might feel guilty about having so much, when others don’t. Or they think that they don’t really deserve to be successful. And there’s even a worry that if you do find success, then you’ll have to almost compete with yourself to keep sustaining or passing that success with even more great ideas, money, or projects. Whatever it is that causes it, fear of success can stop you in your tracks, and make you quit before you even get started.
These types of fears can make really keep you from reaching your goals. You actually get in your own way and you can find yourself procrastinating, or letting that “mean girl” in your head tell you that you aren’t worth it.
So what can you do if you’re caught in this fear cycle? First, just like with fear of failure, you have got to let go of worrying about what others think about you! Why in the world would you hold yourself back because of what someone might say or think? I can promise you that people will talk anyway, and they are entitled to their opinions but you don’t have to hear them! There are “negative Nellys” out there who are going to knock people down no matter what. Don’t let them keep you from what you deserve.
You also need to recognize that you’re worth the time and trouble you have to go through to reach a goal. You really are! Stop all the negative talk in your head, let go of whatever leftover insecurities you have from the past (easier said than done I know but there are books and people out there to help you overcome this), and tell yourself that YOU are worth whatever it takes to find success. And if you won’t do it for yourself, do it for your family. This is about you and them – and nobody else!
Recognize when you’re using these types of excuses to keep from taking the steps you need to take and to get closer to your goal. It’s easy to stick to familiar patterns, even if they aren’t good for us and our business, because they’re what we’re used to and they are comfortable.
Snap out of those harmful routines! Stop putting excuses in your way and move closer to your goal. You deserve success, and you are worth the time it takes to get there. Don’t let fear hold you back!