So you know those days or weeks that are like roller coasters? One minute you’re up, the next not so much. One minute a client thinks you hung the moon, the next minute a different client thinks not so much. We all have those times in our lives, right? And we start thinking what’s the deal? Is there a full-moon or is Mercury back in retrograde? Or am I just crazy? or worse….Am I stupid?
Well I’ve been in one of those periods. And the good news is that this means that there are a ton of “Ups” in my life right now to go with the downs. In fact, things are hopping and happening in my life and career like never before.
So much of what I have been working towards for the past 15 years is falling into place. But that means the stakes are higher than ever and there’s no room for error. My team and I must be on our A-game. No time for under-delivering. This isn’t putting pressure on ourselves, this is the truth. It’s make it or break it time. And at the same time, I must enjoy the journey now, while it’s happening, because in the blink of an eye, these amazing things will be in my past.
And on top of my work expectations, I want to be at my best personally now more than ever. I have worked hard to get healthy and now that I am getting uber-busy with more and more new clients, new partnerships and new business endeavors, I can’t just throw my health and my routines to the wind. I know this because I can see into my trusty crystal ball. Even if I get all these amazing work successes that seem to be lining up and that I’ve wished for, if at the end of them I am back in a place of overworked and overweight, I will be neither healthy or happy.
So then comes the difficult balance of keeping ALL the balls in the air–personal and professional. Why does this work-life balance thing KEEP rearing it’s head? It’s a never-ending challenge right? Right! And it drives me mad.
It’s like this week…One day I rocked a design presentation for some favorite clients who just returned to me 7 years after we did their entire house, sweet right? Well yes until I walked out of the presentation to find another client’s dining table was shipped and installed in the wrong color. CRUD! Then I knock it out of the park in my design workroom on a client’s design for a large Dallas project, so I’m feeling like a design super-star only to come out to find that there’s a problem with my vacation property that I booked a year ago and my vacation is only 6 weeks away. I’ve been depending on that R & R to make it through all this work. But it’s actually the little things, like then sitting down to eat and seeing that my veggie burger is slathered in mayonnaise. That one made me officially melt down. It’s the little things that make me want to go take my daughter to a 9-year-old’s birthday party later that afternoon and push all the girls out of the way and eat the entire cake by myself. You’ve been there, right?
Thankfully, I didn’t eat the cake, ha! And I know these are all minor things in the grand scheme of life especially compared to those in Arkansas, Alabama and Florida who lost their homes and some lost their loved ones to Tornados and floods this week. We must keep things in perspective. I don’t compare these minor challenges of mine to such devastating circumstances as natural disasters. I am not having a pity party. Or even depressed. I just think “enough with the roller-coaster already”. Why can’t things be easier? Why all the emotional ups and downs? Why does everything seem harder than it should be?
I then I realized I needed an attitude adjustment. I needed to get to my gratitude journal pronto and start focusing on all the GREAT in my life because there is SO much of it. And thankfully one of my favorite teachers, Mastin Kipp, swooped in at that very moment with this great video about “Living Your Truth”.
So one of Mastin’s readers asked “Why is it so hard to live your truth?” And that’s what we’re talking about here, right?–Living our own personal truth. I am asking the Universe why does it seem so challenging to bring my gifts and talents to the world while living in a way I know is right for my health and my happiness? Why is MY truth so hard? And thankfully Mastin gave me a big ole SMACK upside the head. Here’s what he said…”Why do you think it’s supposed to be easy?”
AH-HA! Epiphany! Eureka! Why do we think it’s supposed to be easy? Nothing worth having is ever easy. I don’t even DO easy. Easy to me is boring. Is anything I ever attempt easy? Not really. I am a master at tackling the hard. I am drawn to the things no one else has ever thought of. Or that no ones else wants to try.
I want a challenge. I want to be driven to do more, be more, achieve more than is possible. I am willing to get up an hour earlier (or several) if that’s what it takes. I want to be inspired, required and to perspire to make things happen. If there’s no blood, sweat and tears for me, I’m frankly over it before I’ve ever started. So what in the world made me suddenly want easy? Did someone sneak in while I was sleeping and give me a lobotomy?
Seriously, why don’t I bring that same philosophy “it’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be worth it” to staying fit and eating right, to daily responsibilities and ongoing maintenance of client projects and office operations–not just to my GIANT entrepreneurial ideas? In fact it’s more important to have this attitude with the little things, because those little things are really the biggest challenges sometimes right? They are those proverbial straws that break the camel’s back.
Well you know what? I heard Mastin, the Universe, God and my Truth all screaming at me loud and clear. I got it! Nothing is easy. Nothing. If it’s worth doing, it’s worth working hard for. And I’m the genius who dreamed up and committed to these things anyway. I am the one who needs to calm down. To get ahold of myself. To settle in because this is the long and winding road. And I decided to take it. I am in the driver’s seat.
My attitude is changed. I am inspired to meet work-life balance head on. I am challenged to kick work-life balance in it’s big, stinking butt! I am not asking for hand-outs. I am not wishing for easy. I am embracing the “I don’t need a WISH bone, I need a BACK bone” mentality. I am tackling this head-on. And nothing makes me more determined than a good personal challenge. Come on back bone, don’t break on me now!
So “bring it” work-life balance. “Bring it” little annoying daily issues and set-backs. I WILL win. I WILL take you down. I WILL pummel you. I WILL be victorious. Work-life balance say goodbye to having a hold over me. Your days of power are over and I’m in charge now! There will be no should, would, could. I am living my truth and there’s nothing you can do to stop me. ROAR!!!!!
Want to start today living your truth? Join me in the fight. It’s the good fight. It’s worth it. Let’s start today. It’s the epitome of self-care.