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Selfcare Saturday: A New Year, A Better You!

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day planner I saw a great comment by Mastin Kipp a few days ago that said “Forget the idea of a New Year, a New You–you don’t need a NEW you, you just need to lean into the YOU that you already are!” I LOVE this thought. It’s so true. He’s saying that we should be authentic. We should own who we really are. quote You know Mastin is on to something. Why are we always trying to be someone different, instead of just being really great at who we are? I spent some time yesterday creating a Pinterest board all about the things that I already do that I want to do more of in 2015 and a few things I want to add into my life in 2015 (or even stop doing) that will make the “me” I already am even a bit better.

So check out my Pinterest board called A New Year, A Better You. It has everything from How to become that Neat Freak You’ve always wanted to be by Pop Sugar. And yes, I truly love being neat! how to organize To some gorgeous mint green Nike’s that might make me want to lace up even more often and work out. shoe There is a link to How to Organize your Time Better in the New Year. Office table with notepad, computer and flower. View from above with copy space And 5 reasons you should have a Fitbit. (I agree, I’ve had one for years now and just got a new Fitbit Flex). fitbit I posted this cute gratitude journal that might inspire you to keep track of your blessings all year long. You can buy this cutie one on Etsy. gratitude And I even pinned a guide from Lauren Conrad on what healthy supplements we should be taking. Navigating the vitamin and supplement world is confusing sometimes. lauren conrad And I have some great quotes like the one above on self care on the board and I’ve pinned my favorite Whitney English Day planner with a link to buy it in the pink Ikat (shown above) a cute store in Little Rock . This Pink one is the one I have and I am loving the pink feminine touch on my favorite planner this year. There is SO much more on this New Year, Better You Pinterest board from healthy recipes, to my favorite treadmill desk (yes, I WILL get one in 2015), to how to ferment foods for a healthy gut, to the new Tony Robbins book on Money Mastery and there is a fantastic Yoga Glossary that is great for anyone who loves yoga but especially if you are new to it.

Seriously, if it’s on my radar or agenda for 2015, it’s probably on this Pinterest Board. And keep checking back as I will be adding new pins in the coming days and weeks. I am excited about 2015 and I can’t wait to use this new Pinterest tool I’ve created to remind me of my intentions.  And if you feel up to it, you might want to create a similar board of your own. I can see how this board is going to be a great go-to for me–a place to check in on a regular basis and keep myself on track with being authentic and the best me I can be.

Happy Self-care Saturday Friends and Happy Pinning! I’m off to organize my closet, buy some healthy groceries and get ready for a great 2015!



A Magazine Cover and Mid-Year Resolutions

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Well, It’s July. That’s right. We’re half way through 2013 and that’s a perfect time to check into our New Year’s Resolutions and see if we are still on track. We all know that about 90% of people have fallen off the wagon by now.

If your resolutions involved weight loss, you might enjoy my cover story for AY Magazine that’s all about my 40 pound weight loss over the last 2 years. Plus two other inspiring Arkansans and their weight loss stories are featured in this Good Health issue. Believe me, nothing “looks” better on a person than feeling great, and I feel at least 10 years younger than I did just a few years ago. So don’t miss the details in AY’s July issue.


As for my resolutions, they involved several exciting new firsts for me this year all based on my Word of the Year…Inspired. If you want a reminder of what my goals were for this 2013, you can read my Resolutions post from January right here.

I hope you’ll pull out your resolutions and meet me here Tomorrow. I’ll be back then to tell you how I am doing so far this year and what my big plans are for finishing strong in 2013. You can do a self-assessment of your goals then too. And I’ll have some tips, sources and other helpful hints for helping you finish strong this year. Or if you haven’t started, what are you waiting for? I’ll give you my top tips for jump starting your success this week. It’s not to late for a few mid-year resolutions. Let’s do this together.

See you tomorrow!


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Tobi’s 2012 Resolutions Report Card

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Hi My Fellow Fall Lovers!

I can hardly believe it but here we are in the 4th quarter of 2012. It’s time for buying pumpkins and just weeks until the Holiday Season. Then we’ll be rolling into a brand new Shiny 2013. As I mentioned yesterday, I am back today to check into my progress on my 2012 New Year’s Resolutions.

A few weeks ago, my friend Jo Beth was talking about checking into her goals this year and seeing what could be made what of what’s left of 2012. I LOVED her good news…There is still time to make some of our resolutions come to pass before 2012 is in our rear-view mirror.

So on that note, I wanted to look back at my resolutions for this year and give myself a grade on each. Then I’ll see what I’m going to tackle in the next 12 weeks so I finish strong.

This year, I simplified my goals a bit.  I picked only 6 things to work on and I think that was a really good approach. I feel like I have been more successful than in years past.

Below are my Resolutions and you’ll see my “update” to each that will tell you just where I stand to date. I love putting not only these goals but also my progress out in the Universe to hold myself accountable. And feel free to share your report cards here too by leaving me a comment. I would love to help you stay on track to reach your goals in the coming weeks as well.

First I said…”1. Get Organized–2011 was a bit busy and I let some of my organization fall by the way side, this year I’m on a mission to get things whipped back in shape so I don’t waste time looking for things. A place for everything, and everything in it’s place will be my new motto!”

UPDATE: Well I’m excited to say that I have done some great work in this area. Lots of closet cleaning, garage organizing, office detailing, and organizing of my calendar have happened in 2012. And what do I have to show for it? A much less hectic, much more peaceful life. We aren’t spending time looking for things instead of having fun. We aren’t flying by the seat of our pants to get my daughter a home-cooked breakfast and to school early each day or figuring out what to put on the table for dinner at night, get homework done, and to bed on time. My family and I have really taken our quality of life up several notches thanks to getting organized.  Our score in this area? We aced this one so I’m giving us an A.

My next goal was this…”2. Get Fit–In 2011 my goal was to get healthy.  And I did it by losing 20 pounds and changing my eating from carb based to protein based.  In 2012 my goal is to get fit.  This will involve exercise, weight-lifting, and lots of healthy, natural foods. I am even thinking about growing some of them myself in a backyard garden…what fun! This time next year, I will be showing you my arms and abs of steel.”

UPDATE: Another success story for me in this area. I have now lost a total of 31 pounds since June 2011 and I only have 5 to go.  I have been working with a health coach since June 2012, I am going to yoga 4-6 times each week, running on my treadmill 5 days a week and though I don’t have my arms and abs totally sculpted yet, they are on their way. Plus I have totally integrated a self-care component including regular massages and meditation to become mentally fit as well. But since we still have some time,  I want to take this resolution to the next level in these last 12 weeks. So here’s the plan, I’m starting back with my former personal trainer TOMORROW and our weight lifting focus will be abs and arms. I’ll hopefully be showing you my “after” photos at the end of this year! GRADE A- but I’m working for an A+ by December!

My third resolution was a big one…”3. Save More, Give Better–my church had a great focus in December 2011 based on Wal-Mart’s “Save More, Live Better” slogan.  They changed it to Save More, Give Better and it really made an impression on my 6-year-old and me. This year, we are going to get disciplined about the money we spend and ask ourselves, “can we live without it?” before we buy. What we save we will put in a fund to help others in 2012, not just during the holiday season, but all year long. So it’s a mommy-daughter Save-A-Palooza for 2012!”

UPDATE: Uh-oh…Here’s where things fall a bit short. :( Well, the news isn’t all bad.  I completely turned my company finances and savings around this year. We are very “LEAN AND MEAN” and it’s really showing in our profitability at work, so that is a good thing and it is allowing me to do a LOT more charity work through my company than I did in 2011. So that’s a start. But on the home front, I didn’t do quite as well with my savings. We are still very committed to helping others and have done so in several ways this year already, especially with donating all our gently used items when we got organized including clothes, books, and furnishings. And we will do our favorite charity work this holiday season by adopting “angels” through our church and much more to help those in need. It is really the defining moment of our holiday season each year and nothing could keep us from this experience. But I can’t honestly say we mastered the art of “Do we really need that?” this year. So the next 12 weeks will be crucial in seeing if I can redeem myself (and my little 7-year old shopper) in this area.  Score: C

I love my 4th resolution for the year. It was “4.  365 Days of Thank you–I have always been disciplined at Gratitude. I have told you how I even keep a gratitude journal on my phone and iPad. But in 2011, my thank-you note writing fell short compared to years past. So this year, I am taking cues from this great little book and I am going to be disciplined enough to write at least one thank-you note a day. I know it will have more positive influence on me, than even those that I thank.”

UPDATE: OK, so I started off with a bang on this one and fell off the wagon around April. So now I am on a mission to catch up on all my thank-you’s before that 365th day of 2012 rolls around. I will be writing several notes a day to make this happen but I have no doubt I can do it. It may have been 10 years since my wedding but I still remember the discipline of writing thank you’s for our gifts, so it will be just like riding a bike for me, right?! SCORE: C+ but determined for an A+ by end of year!

Resolution #5 is a great one…”5. Fill People’s Buckets–Thanks to my work with Strength Finders 2.0 last year and spending time on their member’s only website, I was introduced to another little book that I LOVE! I have always liked complimenting, inspiring, and uplifting others, but this year I am going to make a conscious effort to do so.  If I can make a difference in other people’s lives and attitudes, it will be one of life’s biggest rewards.”

UPDATE: Well thanks to my work with other designers through my Mastermind Consulting Group and my Camp Tobi Fairley events, I get an opportunity to lift a lot of people up on a regular basis. And Filling People’s buckets is contagious. Plus you can ALWAYS do more, which is what I am determined to do through these last 3 months of the year. SCORE: A- today heading straight for an A+ in the coming weeks.

By the way…Did you see my recent post on Giving Hugs? I’ve been hugging everyone I see and it seems to be filling people’s buckets by leaps and bounds. People are coming out of the woodwork who read that post and are ready for their “squeeze” so obviously our world is even more hug-deprived than I originally thought. Definitely more hugging is in my future this year and beyond! :)

And lastly, my sixth resolution was this…”6. Discipline as a Lifestyle–There are a few areas where it would make my life easier and/or better if I could improve my discipline. Some examples include getting up earlier, exercising more regularly, reading even more business books, using my vision boards more effectively, calling my clients more often, journaling, and monitoring my finances at home and at work more. This isn’t about adding a bunch of new tasks, it’s about being more consistent with the ones I already have. My typical “All or nothing” habits are holding me back a bit. I think ridding myself of those “Nothing” periods will really pay off.”

UPDATE: Well this area is the one I really hit a home run in this year!!! I have been disciplined at getting up at 5am, exercising regularly, reading more, and monitoring my finances, especially at work. I have been disciplined about keeping my daughter on a healthy schedule, keeping myself on a healthy and whole foods eating plan, and I have really kicked that “All or nothing” habit.  There have been very few “nothing” periods this year and you can really see the results both physically and mentally with me.  I am healthier, happier, less stressed, with more stamina and I have a general sense of peace that I’ve never had before. I am spending tons of quality time with my family and I am here to tell you this is the best thing I have ever done for my family and for me!!  EVER!! SCORE A+  (But now the hard part of maintaining this discipline really sets in.)

So here it is…Tobi’s Resolutions Report Card:

I’m feeling really good about my score so far for this, my 40th year . I think it has probably been my best year yet and it’s not over. The next 12 weeks will really tell how I roll into my 41st birthday in January. So far I am feeling better, healthier, and wiser than my thirties and thanks to my new habits, I’m looking younger too! :)

How about you, how’s your year going and what are you going to do for a strong finish? I really do want to know. Leave me a comment, please.

Cheers to us all!! xo, Tobi

Dream a Little Dream in 2012

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Well, it’s day 3 of my tour through my 2012 resolutions, plans and dreams. If you’ve been with me this week, you have read my resolutions for the new year. You know what I’m planning to accomplish, and today we are going to take it outside the box, or the “jar” so to speak and talk about my dreams.

It’s a scary thing, even for me, to put my dreams out in the universe. What if people laugh at me, or think I’m stupid, or silly? What if I jinx myself by telling you all what extraordinary wishes are in my head and my heart? Ok…well, so what?!

What do I really have to lose? If I don’t put them out there, they may never happen. If I am not willing to take that lid off the jar that holds my deepest desires, how in the world will the people that can help me achieve them ever even know about them?

What do I have to lose by being vulnerable and authentic and open? Our fears so often hold us back from really going after the things that we dream about, that we visualize, that we yearn for.  Many people would rather be pleasantly surprised if something accidentally happens to them in life, as opposed to taking a chance on being disappointed if they dream of something, go after it, and fail.

I, on the other hand, prefer to leave nothing to chance. I would never want to come to the end of my life and wish I had dreamed bigger and tried harder to make those dreams come true.  I prefer to dream big, plan big, take big risks, work really hard, and celebrate awesome results!  


And who cares if people think you are silly or stupid or worse? Apparently Coco Chanel didn’t let what other people thought of her hold her back. So why would we? I say “if Coco can do it, I can too!”

Will I have failures? Sure! Will many of the things I dream, not come to pass? Of Course! But the more I dream and the bigger I dream the more of those dreams I will realize. But you gotta dream big.  I mean REALLY B-I-G!  If you dream about being a billionaire and you only make $100 Million, I don’t think you are going to be too disappointed, do you?

So here they are in no particular order, 20 of my Big, Giant, Hairy, Scary, Dreams…with one extra thrown in for fun.

1. Write a Book…well actually, several.

2. Have an Apartment in New York City

3. Learn to Play the Piano

4. Travel Internationally every year and take my daughter with me

5. Be published in the other “biggies” that I haven’t made it into yet…Architectural Digest, Elle Decor, Veranda.

6. Have my own furniture line

7. Have a Summer Home–the Hamptons, a Farm with chickens, or the Beach…I can’t decide.  Maybe I’d like all three!

8.  Have my own TV Show

9. Visit Maison & Objet in Paris

10. Have a Garden…a fabulous one both flower and vegetable.

11. Build a New House in Arkansas

12. Do the Kipps Bay Showhouse

13. Rent a Villa in Italy for a Month, followed by a Month in a Paris Apartment for the Summer with my mama, hubby, and baby girl in tow.

14. Have my own Radio Show

15. Have a house keeper 5 days a week

16. Make enough money to make significant charity donations every year of $25,000 or more (hopefully much more) to help less fortunate people have a more beautiful life.

17. Learn to Speed read so I can get through all the business books on my list

18. Spend 2 weeks in Maui every Winter and a week at Blackberry Farms every Fall.

19. Have my own column in a National Magazine or Newspaper

20. Take Culinary courses to learn to be a great Chef

21. Buy a Birkin Bag in a FABULOUS color!

So there they are. Now that wasn’t so bad, was it? I am ready to see what the Universe does with all this material. I’d be happy with even one of these “Biggies” this year and the good news is…I’m feeling lucky! Come on 2012, mama needs a new pair of shoes (or a house in the Hamptons, or an orange Birkin Bag).

So what are your big dreams this year? Come on, tell us! Put them out here in the Universe and see what happens. What have you got to lose?

Try out this neat course over at Mondo Beyondo starting next Monday if you need some help discovering them. I’ve done their Dream Lab before and believe me, it’s super inspirational.

Happy Dreaming!  xo, Tobi

Planning for Success in 2012

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Well if you’ve been here already this week, you know I am taking you on a tour through my resolutions, plans, and dreams for 2012. Yesterday was about my resolutions. Today we are looking at my plans. And boy do I have a list of plans!

People often tell me my accomplishments are “Awesome”. How can I do it all? Well my answer…Planning! One of my favorite quotes is “Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail, and I believe 100% that with the proper planning you can be “Awesome” too!

If you can perceive it, you can achieve it, right? So for my plans (different from my resolutions which are traits or habits that I want to improve), this is a list of things that I have imagined and then decided to start, do, or accomplish in 2012. In one of my favorite books, Hard Goals, Mark Murphy teaches you that creating “realistic” goals and plans is only holding you back. You gotta go big people, and that is something that I can definitely do!


So, today I am bringing you a list of Big (and small) things I am taking action on this year to get to where I ultimately want to be.

And here they are…

My second One Kings Lane Sale–In less than 2 weeks, my second offering of products on the AMAZING One Kings Lane site is happening. It’s just around the corner. What a fun way to kick off 2012, right? Look for my sale Tastemaker Tag Sale on Saturday, January 14th.

Update my blog–I’m not necessarily talking a new look, but I want to switch things up a bit. It’s been in its current state for over a year now, so I think we need to add a little spice, don’t you?

Add more Video–One way we will be making all our sites more exciting this year, is by adding more video.  I want to bring you into my projects and experiences in an all new way.

Introduce a revision to InBox Interiors–My e-design site has been going strong for well over a year now, so I think it’s time to give it a new twist or two. Have any ideas of what you’d like to see added, I’d love to hear your thoughts.  Plus I have a few exciting ideas of my own.

Travel to Morocco–Thanks to an invitation from the Design Investors, I will be traveling to Marrakech this year for the Design Leadership Summit. Now this is really stepping outside my typical travel plans.  I can’t wait for this adventure.

Dering Hall–I am so excited to be partnering with Dering Hall with a storefront this year. And being a part of some of their upcoming featured sales with Hearst Magazines is another highlight. If you don’t yet know about Dering Hall, the brand new marketplace showcasing the work and product of the nation’s hottest designers and artisans, then 2012 is the time for you to check it out!

Launch new Design Camps, Teleseminars, and E-books–I am thrilled to be bringing you more of my knowledge on both design and the business of design this year in a variety of ways and a variety of price points. I hope this will make me more accessible to more of you.

Create an All-new Tobi Fairley and Associates Website–So you can know much more about what we offer in the way of coaching, seminars, camps and more, stay tuned for an All-New website in the next few months. 

Pitch 5 projects or more to local and national media–I am excited to have at least 5 great projects that finished up over the last year and I am now ready to photograph and pitch to my favorite magazines…Wish me luck!

Introduce New Fabric Patterns and other Tobi Fairley designed Products to Tobi Fairley Home–I have some very exciting new patterns and other great products that I am bringing to Tobi Fairley Home. Stay tuned for these gorgeous new offerings coming really soon.

Launch products with 2 or more other manufacturers–My collaboration with Hickory Chair went so well in 2011, I am excited to be collaborating with 2 or more of my favorite vendors to bring you other products this year. I think you are going to love them.

More exciting speaking engagements–So far I am scheduled to speak at the Design Bloggers Conference in Los Angeles in February, the International Window Coverings Expo in Chicago this April, and an Interior Design Society Conference in Naples, Florida in May. I’m talking to several other venues about appearing at their events in 2012 too.  I hope to see you at one of these great events this year. If you are interested in booking me for your event, give me a ring!

Work on several new projects–I have the exciting privilege of starting several fabulous new projects this year including a hotel and a great high-rise penthouse. Stay tuned for more on these dreamy spaces.

San Francisco or Bust!–I’m heading with my family to San Francisco for the US Open golf tournament this June. Well for me it will be less about golf, and more about wine, art, shopping,and friends! But I am so excited that I’ll be with my family (about 15 of us) on this exciting trip to one of my favorite cities this summer.

Celebrating a new book–Some of my work is coming out in an exciting new book this year with Susanna Salk by Rizzoli. I am so honored to be included and I will be excited to celebrate the launch in just a few months.

I can hardly wait to bring you more exciting Holiday products this year (I know, I know…we just finished Christmas 2011). A full line of Holiday products will be out in September this year so you have plenty of time to buy before your holiday decorating and gift giving.

Buh Bye Comfort Zone–I am thrilled to be doing some serious work with my business coach in 2012, plus I’m heading to several new business conferences this year. I can’t imagine a year without learning so that is definitely on my list for 2012. And my coach has a way of pushing me WAY out of my comfort zone (which is pretty darn hard to do).  No rest for the weary, right?!? But this will mean BIG mental shifts are on tap for me in 2012. And I say…”Bring it on!”

R and R–Lots of weekends at the river and the lake will be included this year to rest and re-energize between all this work, travel, and living outside my comfort zone. I’ll need some river views and relaxing weekends to bring me back down to earth, I think.

So there you have them, my plans so far for 2012.  Yes, its a lot, but this is only part of what I will take on this year.  Does it scare me? Not too much, but I’ve been planning and accomplishing like this for years. It seems the more I put on my plate, the more I accomplish. And after all, if we aren’t pushed out of our comfort zone we’ll never make the leap to where we want to be.

So what are you planning and doing in 2012 to get you out of your comfort zone and into your sweet spot? I’d love to hear from you.

Happy Planning and Happy New Year. Join me tomorrow for some dreaming. It’s gonna be..well, Dreamy! xoxo, Tobi