Self-care Saturday: Lean and Mean in 2014–My Body, Mind and Business

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Remember when I decided on my “word of the year” a few months back? It is ACTION and in the 10 weeks of 2014 so far, I have been taking consistent action on many things. Too many things actually.


There is no doubt I am getting some killer results, particularly in my business ventures, but I am guilty of saying “Yes!” to a few too many things this year already. I am not being selective. I am not being disciplined about only choosing what is the BEST for me, but I am letting lots of “good” things slip in too. And as I’ve said before you have to be willing to let go of what is GOOD  for you to focus on what is BEST for you.


My philosophy for this year is Lean and Mean in 2014. It’s my mantra really. It was a litmus test I created to keep my schedule in check and so far I am loosing the battle. Because being Lean and Mean AND being a “yes man  girl” are not simpatico. But I am determined not to lose the war so it’s time to measure and adjust a bit.


Yes, it is time to make a few changes. It is time to clean up the schedule a bit. It is time to say NO to some things and cancel a few others. And this is a hard thing for me to do. I like to think I can do anything and also do everything. But again—that’s not lean and mean.


The only saving grace for me is that when I get my schedule over-booked, when I start missing my family and their important events, when I stop having time for myself, then suddenly things have a way of coming into perspective. It’s like having a crystal ball really. So I just cancelled a fabulous trip of a lifetime in April, to stay home and live the BEST life I can with my family that week instead. It is the right decision. It’s living Lean and Mean. It makes me happy, rested and productive. It’s what I want.


So what do YOU think? How can taking ACTION and saying NO work together when they almost seem like opposites? Well really they are totally dependent on each other. They are Yin and Yang. You cannot possibly focus on taking action on the things that are most important to you, that align with your intentions, goals and dreams without saying NO to all the things that don’t.


What about you? As we near the end of the first quarter of this year, as we grade ourselves on how we are doing with our goals and intentions so far in 2014 and as we make a few adjustments so we can stay on the straight and narrow path to all we want to achieve this year, are you saying yes to too much? Are you giving up what you want most, for what you want (or what someone else wants) right now?


This is the perfect time to “measure and adjust” so you can finish the first quarter lean and mean. And saying no to things that are good for you but aren’t the BEST for you, is the perfect form of self-care.


Happy Saturday, Friends. Will you get Lean and Mean with your schedule, your business and your life this year? Leave me a comment and let me know how you’re going to make that happen.


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4 Responses to Self-care Saturday: Lean and Mean in 2014–My Body, Mind and Business

  1. Miffy Barden says:

    Tobi, Thanks for sharing this message! I too often say “Yes” also. I crave the days when life was simple, but also crave the endless possibilities of opportunities available to me as a woman business owner. I need to adopt your mission of “Lean and Mean in 2014”. Happy Saturday to you too 🙂

  2. franki says:

    This is turning into being one of the most difficult years for me…leaving go. Trying to “leave go” of my mother who has Alzheimer disease…trying to “leave go” of my home of forty plus years…with everything in it…I really am trying. Your words of wisdom do make a difference. franki

  3. Hi Tobi, Long time reader … first time commenting. I love your décor and life posts with equal measure. This one resonated with me as I’m struggling this year. For the first time in my life I feel directionless as far as work goes. I’m facing a situation of needing to work, but not knowing what I want to do. In a couple of weeks one of my two part time jobs will be over. There’s not that much part time work in the small coastal town where I live and I’m not sure what I’m going to do about it. My husband is fantastically supportive and I know with a little worry, a little optimism and whole lot of effort it will all work out, but it’s a weird feeling for someone who has been so career driven in the past. It would be easy to go back to the job I’ve held for the last two years as I get a phone call almost weekly begging me to come back. But I made the decision to leave and while circumstances have changed, I don’t want to go backwards. I’m putting it all aside for a long planned trip with my hubby and small daughter next week and will concentrate on the next step when we are home again. Thanks for letting me share!

  4. Hi Tobi,

    I stumbled upon this blog entry through google. I really like your mantra “Lean and Mean 2014”, and also you word of the year 2013 “Action.”

    You might want to have a look at my blog. It is about Lean self-improvement – applying good practices from the business world at home.

    Have a good time!