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Soulful Sunday: Keeping Burnout at Bay

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Running a business, being a mom and following your dreams can be challenging. But life is what you make of it and I have a habit a going after what I want especially when it’s not easy.



But everyone (even me) needs a break. Everyone has to replenish. Everyone must turn things off for a bit or your new best friend will be burnout. And I hear she’s not a girl you want to get to know.


I have been planning my vacations a year ahead for years now. If not, I would NEVER take a break. There is never a good time to get away. There is never a time when our clients, our team and our projects think they can live without us. But the thing is, if you never take vacations and breaks from work you will end up with a mandatory vacation thanks to your health. And if you think you projects can’t live without you know, just see how they survive when you are completely out of commission. And rest assured, all your worries will still be there when you get back whether from vacation or from the hospital, so if you take some time off, you really have nothing to lose.


Travel feeds the soul. Not having a schedule clears your mind. Often my most creative ideas come when I am on vacation.


Disconnecting from the world helps you connect with yourself like never before. And which connection is most important to your long term success
being connected to everyone and everything or being connected to your innermost desires, creativity and self?


When is the last time you did something that made you truly and totally happy? And if you can’t remember then you already know it’s been way too long. Joy should be a regular occurrence in your life. Otherwise what are you working for?


So what would it take for you to really relax. And what would it take for you to start planning your vacation a year in advance and putting down a deposit so you can’t change your mind? Or better yet, what would it take for you to plan a month off once a year, or a week off once a quarter. And I mean really off–not checking emails, not taking calls, completely engaged with yourself or your family or friends?


If you are ever going to be able to adopt this mindset, you have to stop telling yourself all the reasons it won’t work and come up with one good reason that it will. You have to change the way you think. You have to look at things differently.


I just spent two weeks with family and friends at the beach. I didn’t really blog.I hardly checked in with my office. I took daily 5 mile walks, daily bike rides to the beach, spent hours sitting by the ocean, enjoyed a beachfront bonfire one night listening to the waves and gazing into the sea with the moon reflecting and the stars shining, laughed and played with my 9 year old and celebrated her birthday, ate snow cones, let my hair dry by itself, drank fruity cocktails and ate fresh seafood and shockingly nothing collapsed while I was away.

Could you do this? What would it take? It’s not as hard as you think. The hardest step is just taking the leap. Next year, I just may go for a month! 😉


Now leave me a comment and let me know what you are doing to keep burnout at bay. Or if you are close to burnout, use this as an opportunity to hold yourself accountable and tell us where you are booking your vacation and when, and then go make the downpayment. You are so worth it!

And trust me, you will thank me when you are feeling refreshed and renewed. xo,

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Last Day at the Beach

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10467965_911160465576751_1731956361_n So it’s our last day at the beach and early tomorrow we will make the 12 hour trek home. But boy have we had a great time. I was joined by my family last week and great friends this week. And after the wonderfully busy year I’ve had in 2014 so far it was a very welcome break. 10454000_677271755653891_716544297_n We had our fair share of sugar with friends. 927689_316120011879592_1966957139_n Enjoyed tomatoes and watermelon daily including this fab salad from Georges at Alys Beach. 10483455_1442461456004209_1013943301_n And spent plenty of time catching waves in the gorgeous Florida waters. So a big thank you for excusing me from the blog for a couple of weeks. I will get back to normal next week feeling relaxed and happy.

xo from Florida,

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Happy Birthday at the Beach!

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Ellison's 9th Birthday

Today is a VERY special day in my world. This beautiful, smart, kind and funny girl turns 9! She has spent almost all of her birthdays at the beach and this year is no different. So thanks for letting me be away from the blog for a bit while I spend some quality time with my favorite girl!



Tobi TV: Tips for Adding Original Art to Your Home

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Today I’m in New York city for 18 hours, tomorrow I’ll be back on the beautiful beaches of Florida, but last week I was in my home state in lovely northwest Arkansas at the fabulous 21c Museum Hotel having my Mastermind Consulting Group Meeting. We visited the exquisite Crystal Bridges Museum with our group of 35 fabulous women, seeing the largest permanent collection of American Art in our country and the beautiful (albeit temporary) Paley exhibit, an unbelievable private collection including artwork by Matisse, Gauguin, Degas, Picasso and so much more that will soon be permanently installed at  MoMA in New York.


So in honor of both my Mastermind Group and my love of original art, today I am kicking off a fun series of Tobi TV with tips from some of my talented interior design Mastermind members. And today’s featured designer is North Carolinian Kara Cox of Kara Cox Interiors with tips for infusing your space with original artwork. You’ll see art from Kara’s great projects and from some of mine in this fun video. Take a look…

So here’s a recap of Kara’s Top Tips for Using Original Art in Your Home:

1. Buy art when you travel. It’s a fun memento from your trip and many great cities that are ideal vacation spots are also hot spots for art galleries.

2. If you are interested in original art but are afraid of the price tag, consider buying emerging artists’ work. They are often very talented but just haven’t been “discovered” yet, so you can get great buys early in their career.

3. But on that note, original artwork can be affordable. Don’t be afraid to go into any gallery and take a look at the work and the price. There’s no need to be intimidated. You don’t have to be an art expert to visit the gallery and ask questions. That’s what they are there for. And you may be surprised that many beautiful, original pieces are less expensive than you may think.

4. Be confident with your art selections. Mix and match styles of art with your interiors. It’s fun to mix contemporary and abstract art into a traditional interior, or vice versa.

5. Commissioned art can be a great solution to finding the perfect piece for your space. Working with an artist to create an original piece allows you to get the right size and maybe even adjust the colors a bit so they coordinate better with your home.

I hope you loved these tips from Kara Cox. They are definitely some of the art guidelines I use for my clients. Leave a comment and let me know what you think of this video and be sure to share it with your art and design loving friends. Plus stay tuned for more tips from other talented members of my Mastermind Consulting Group coming to Tobi TV soon.

Now I’m off to a fun event in NYC and then catching a 6am flight back to Florida. My goal is to be on the beach tomorrow by 10am!  I’ll tell you all about the NYC event really soon.

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Hello From Sunny Florida!

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Hi Friends! I didn’t forget you. Actually I feel a bit lost while I am away from the blog and not in touch with you daily, but the last couple of weeks just got a little more hectic than usual. Life happens like that sometimes especially in the summer when my daughter is out of school. I’m sure it happens to you too. But today I am happy to report that I have landed safely in Florida and made my way to the Seaside/Watercolor area for an exciting 2 week stay.

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I have been vacationing in Florida for years but never stayed for two weeks at a time so I am very excited to see how it goes. I do have to make a quick jaunt up to NYC this week and will be making a fun announcement while I am there, so stay tuned for that.

Otherwise, I will be relaxing, replenishing and getting uber creative so I can hit the ground running for the second half of 2014 because I have a LOT on my plate for Fall that I will be telling you about soon.


I hope you are having (or planning to have soon) great summer vacations too. They are so important to our health and well-being. Especially for workaholics like me.

Happy Summer! xo,

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