Just this morning while watering my Petunias, I discovered a bird’s nest with 4 tiny, white, speckled eggs in it. They were so beautiful. And upon closer investigation, I discovered that there was actually a fifth egg that had fallen out of the nest.
So after a prompt search of the inter webs, I decided that the best and right option for me was to put the fallen egg back in the nest and wait for mama bird to nurture it along with the other eggs.
And after thinking about this whole scenario metaphorically, I realized that it reminded me of one of Mastin’s posts this week in which he said this… “Just because everything isn’t perfect in your life, you are not broken and you don’t need to be fixed”.
WOW! Let’s think about that. We are not broken. And if we identify with the idea of being broken, we become victims. We perpetuate our unhappiness and continue along a never-ending path toward trying to be fixed. It is exhausting.
So just like that baby bird egg I found, we are not broken. Yes, we may sometimes fall out of the nest, but just like that little egg, we are almost always still in one piece. We may be a bit shaken or bruised, but we are not broken. And we must remember that it is in the moments that we fall out of the nest (or our comfort zone) that we are faced with the most important question of all…Do we learn from it and make ourselves better or do we fixate on it and become the victim?
I feel so relieved now that I can stop asking what is wrong with me? I can stop asking myself “Why can I never FIX all the things that hold me back?” I now know that I was asking an unanswerable question, because of course you can’t fix something that isn’t broken in the first place. Maybe that’s where the old saying comes from…”If it ain’t broke”.
So yes we can always do things to make our life easier and more fulfilled. And I will continue to strive to do that every day. But letting go of the identity of being broken, if it was only a small part of my thinking, is the first step to living the life I want. And if we really call it what it is–it’s about taking responsibility for all that we are (perfect or not) and living in the present. Yes, the present, in all it’s beauty and all it’s glory right there in our nest. And it’s even about designing a physical nest (or home or retreat) to nurture and love ourselves in all our imperfection. Because just like those tiny, speckled bird eggs…We are beautiful!
Happy Self-care Saturday my friends. And know that sometimes the best way to love and care for yourself is just admitting you are not broken and really believing it in your heart. Though owning one of these fabulous “Nests” from Dedon, wouldn’t hurt either.